Tips for a good Massage Erotic for you Man

TIPS FOR A GOOD MASSAGE EROTIC FOR YOUR MAN

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When the stimulator erotic massage becomes your libido!

Erotic massage, sensual massage: Ladies, offering an erotic massage to your partner you will overwhelm the least, you will stimulate his libido! Atmosphere, basic techniques, imagination and sensuality will be part of your program, to make this moment a delight to the senses of your beloved companion. Here are some suggestions massage, without forgetting that the most important is the tenderness and passion you put into it ….

Create an atmosphere to make your erotic massage more enjoyable
If the erotic massage helps relax the body and mind, however, it is essential that both partners are in advance relatively relaxed. The atmosphere is the second factor crucial to the success of your erotic massage. Before you embark on an erotic massage, so make sure that nothing will disturb you – no children, no phone. For erotic massage, choose a cozy room in which you and your partner will be able to expand and create a “sensual atmosphere”, with soothing lighting and soft music. Candles and incense accentuate the romantic and aphrodisiac effect. The room temperature should be adequate: you will be neither under the covers or dressed – or very little! Do not forget to plan for performing erotic massage massage oil to increase the feelings of your partner and allow your hands to glide easily. IF you want to massage his genitals, obtain an oil that may come into contact with mucous membranes and is not irritating. When erotic massage, be attentive to the various reactions of your partner (sounds, movements, etc.) to adapt your massage according to their preferences. His breathing is another indicator of its condition and will tell you a lot about his feelings. Dress side, put a nice string, but do not put anything on top; you will need to spice up your breasts massage …

Different erotic massage techniques
The effleurage is generally used at the beginning and the end of the massage and soothing action. It is simply placing your hands on your partner – tense and tight – and to touch her skin, applying light pressure. Mixing remains the most dynamic method erotic massage. Mainly used to massage the buttocks and hips, this technique involves lifting the flesh of one hand and then performing a twisting motion with each other. To perform this action, please press on both thumbs. Percussion is to tap a portion of your partner’s body with your hands. Percussion can take different forms for erotic massage: pat (fingertip) hatching (when the hands are in vertical position) or the beat (the fists are closed here). This technique is ideal for back, hips and thighs. The technique of the jaws of the tiger – which is thus nicknamed because of the position V obtained by removing the index finger and thumb – is mainly for the legs and torso. This method is used to go along the muscles by applying pressure very pleasant. It is particularly relaxing. Finally, with erotic massage, you can also adopt the kneading technique. It is to enter the muscle mass of the area being massaged and then tighten it between your fingers. Only the tips of the fingers and thumbs are in action. This method is ideal for massaging the fleshy areas and activate blood circulation.

Erotic massage, do not forget the basics!
Filled with constantly muscles and nerves, back deserves attention here generously for erotic massage. Start by touching the back of your fingertips partner then scrape it a few moments with your nails, gently. Then massage her shoulders down to the elbows. Continue putting you on all fours above him, to touch his skin with your breasts, down to the level of her buttocks. If you have not applied massage oil for erotic massage, you can stroke his back, buttocks and earlobes with your tongue and lips. Then knead her buttocks sensually – provided it is not touchy. When erotic massage, you masserez legs of your partner, start with the calves making sweeping motions, one hand after the other up. Note that the massage oil is highly recommended for this part, so do not pull hair. When masserez thighs rather make a scuffing and do not hesitate to conclude this step, use your lips (staying on course thighs as erotic massage is not yet complete). Do not neglect your feet; massaging, you will overwhelm your partner. It is mostly thumbs that will work, exerting pressure on the entire sole of the foot. You can also use your tongue and lips to caress her toes – provided it is not touchy. For the rest of erotic massage, to you to decide, you improvise …

Massage Tantric, Harmony within the Couple

MASSAGE TANTRIC, HARMONY WITHIN THE COUPLE 

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tantric massage, total harmony between body and mind

Tantric massage is often seen as a purely erotic approach inevitably leads to sex. However, this exchange is much deeper. Tantric massage is designed to awaken the sensuality and sensitivity between the two partners, rediscovering touch and by establishing a harmony between body and mind. Whether giving up, giving and receiving are three key aspects in a tantric massage.

Tantric Massage: What is Tantra?

Before going into the details of tantric massage should be briefly define what Tantra. This is a current inspired by Indian and Chinese ancient traditions. Tantra is a quest, a spiritual opening with sexual energy. The concept of sexuality is present, but in addition to relaxation, sensuality, to discover the sense of self and the other, etc.

Tantric massage is taught in tantra – esoteric sacred books. All parts of the body are considered in the same way. Thus, the genitals can be massaged without there being any ulterior motives on the part of the masseur or massaged. During tantric massage both partners are naked and use a hot oil to increase the benefits of their movements.

Note there are no established rules for the practice of tantric massage. Sensuality, harmony and responsiveness are the guidelines of this form of massage. Here are some tips that will help you practice what massage and make it effective.

First part of tantric massage

Above all, it is essential to create a soft, warm and soothing. Create an atmosphere of relaxation during a massage is always recommended, and more in the case of tantric massage, it goes without saying. The room must be well heated and very soft lighting. The candles are still the best when it comes time to create an intimate atmosphere. Incense and relaxing music will also bring warmth and relaxation to your massage. Tantric massage usually starts with the back but, again, there is no ready-made technique. However, it is better not to address the erogenous zones at once, to get comfortable your partner and yourself.

Start by massaging the sacrum your partner, then lying (e) on the belly. Slowly go up to his shoulders and neck with emphasis on the region of the spine. Your movements should be slow, deep and linked. Massage her neck and shoulders, arms and hands. Take care then the lower part of the body: legs, buttocks and feet. You can then begin to massage the inside of her thighs and groin area.

Then comes the time to open the chakras, the energy points found seven in number in the human body. In humans, it is the solar plexus it will linger, while in women, these energy points are stimulated by gentle massage of the lower abdomen (below the navel).

Second part of tantric massage

In women: the man can continue his tantric massage up towards the top and caressing the breasts, arms and hands of his partner. It will then dwell on the upper body, stroking his neck, scalp, face and ears, all with gentleness and tenderness. The sex of the partner can now be touched … but without erotic ideas! The purpose of massage is for now the relaxation and discovery of self and the other. Then back down to her legs and massage them gently in depth by making harmonious gestures. Step back now to the upper body and alternate massage and caresses.

In humans: the woman can continue her massage massaging the belly of his partner and his shoulders. The neck and throat can then be petted. Now go down to sex, testicles and anus of your partner. Touch these areas gently but even “directive” as Sir, no ulterior motives (for the moment). Tantric massage is intended as a discovery of sense and sensitivity of each and a moment of relaxation of body and mind. Once the genitals of your partner relaxed, down to her legs and massage them deeply, slowly. Step back now to the upper body and massage her chest, shoulders, arms and hands. Take care of her face then you masserez and caresserez softly. Remember to alternate between the two partners must be massaged and massaged.

Tantra – A Beautiful Alternative

Tantric Goddess of Sensual Touch

Tantra is and ancient healing art with powerful energies which can bring a new positive attitude to negative thoughts that may be holding you back in many area of your life. Doctors are all too quick to prescribe pills and psychotherapy when all we sometimes need is space and a little time to de-stress and find peace away from the phone, TV and noise.

Stress is one of the biggest ailments in our modern world it affects our well-being in so many ways. An inability to relax fully in the moment has a huge bearing in our sensual and sexual lives.

A Tantra massage can be the first step to dealing with premature ejaculation problems, a relaxed setting, intrinsic breathing techniques can give confidence to slow the act down which in turn allows the body to prolong the pleasure aspect before orgasm. The massage also alleviates the negative thought spiral…

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Tantric Sex What is it?

TANTRIC SEX WHAT IS IT?

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My partner and I have heard of tantric sex, but we do not know exactly what it is. Can you tell us where to start?
Tantra is a Sanskrit word that means “woven together”. Followers of the Hindu and Buddhist meditation use the metaphor of sexual union to describe the union between the physical and the spiritual: the relationship between a man and a woman, between the human and the divine. The goal is to be one with God. Tantra is Western expression of this sacred form of sexuality: he taught to practice slow sex without orgasm. Couples I receive in my office and who engage in this form of sexual practice have discovered they can develop a great pleasure for the senses and learn to blend one into the other, an intense and loving feeling. The goal is to reach the light and not to win an Olympic medal to a carnal gymnastics competitions.

Here is a first exercise to start with tantric method. Fully clothed, stand face to face and look at the eyes of your partner. Support his gaze to create an intimate relationship. To reduce tension, some cheat leaving their eyes go between the eyes of the partner. The eyes are the mirror of the soul, then you look at his soul, he looks yours. Then, synchronize your breathing: breathe in unison, exhale simultaneously. Then, alternate your breaths: inhale when it expires, breathe on her inspiration, like taking possession of the other by his breath. Continue for ten minutes.

To switch to tantric sex, do the same process without clothing. Sit on his lap, facing him and circle the size of your legs. Practice sharing breath and start to kiss and caress you. In time, unite slowly while continuing kisses and caresses. Do not stop looking at you. And here’s where things get tough: by becoming more skilled, you will develop an ability to obtain extended orgasm. In men and women, it is a variant of the multiple orgasm. You live in the ecstasy of top without ever reaching the climax. You live all the sensations of a typical orgasm for several minutes or even hours, bypassing traditional orgasm. You will then know a very deep emotional and sexual union.

Refocus
The infernal schedule of modern life often prevents us to stop and focus intently on our partner. Tantric sex can improve our relationship and our sexual pleasure in many ways. First, amplified breathing and contact can help create a sense of intimacy. This sensation can only allow you to open your heart to the approximation, a greater love and forgiveness. Then the slow pace of tantric sex will take you to explore the sensuality of your body and your mind. Make love for an hour or more is like turning a hamburger in an epicurean feast. Both satisfy your hunger, but the feast will be more delicious, more enjoyable and satisfying. Finally, even if you do not like the idea of avoiding the climax, these practices can help you achieve sexual ecstasy and personal privacy that goes far beyond traditional orgasm.

Tantrism to the Orgasm Tantric

TANTRISM TO THE ORGASM TANTRIC
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Tantra…Tantric orgasm
If Tantra is basically a spiritual power straight from India, today is a method to many Western couples to reach the 7th heaven. Every day seminars, workshops and training we are also proposed to achieve the tantric orgasm … But what Tantra? How to practice? What’s behind the term tantric orgasm? Decryption.
Tantra, a new method to achieve the seventh heaven? Far from it … If the past few years we hear of Tantra as a sexual practice, it is actually a life philosophy born there over 1500 years in India. Basically, we call a set of tantric texts and rituals which aims, through the exploration of the senses, to reach a total alertness.

Like yoga, tantra uses breathing and meditation as main tools of awakening. All the senses are stimulated in Tantric philosophy, including the senses called “carnal.” Hence the assimilation of a tantric sexual practice … It also speaks of tantric orgasm, a state of ecstasy which, according to those who have already tested (and approved!), Would be two three times stronger than a “classic” orgasm …

Is Tantra does it for me?

Tantra is mainly for couples: love and trust are two essential keys to achieve the tantric orgasm. Another prerequisite for playing the “game tantric” not consider sexual intercourse only as a means to achieve orgasm.

In the Tantric philosophy is the way that leads to orgasm is more important than the orgasm itself. Thus, we do not make love to achieve coitus but for all the fun and relaxation that comes from the union and fusion of the couple and the chemistry that emerges. Better indeed speak of discovery (carnal) our sense of sex. Conversely the quick sex, intercourse inspired tantric tends to push the point of orgasm to enjoy the fusion of the couple.

But then, what may suit couples Tantra? To all those who wish to “get” discover new sensations and love their lover (s) in a different way. However, test the tantric approach can be only two: if one partner is reluctant, it will hinder the tantric orgasm that requires a total relaxation of both partners.

Tantric Orgasm: what a difference a lambda orgasm?

Unlike “traditional” orgasm, orgasm tantric journey throughout the body and can be triggered without ejaculation there is no penetration. This is more of an explosion of the senses of the whole body as a localized orgasm in the pelvis. This is the principle of Tantrism: we no longer speak of sex but of discovering meaning in both. Thus, during sexual intercourse inspired Tantra, fellatio, cunnilingus and penetration are no longer essential to reach the seventh heaven.

But then what do we do? Mass and caress the body of his partner as a whole and not put all on the erogenous zones … The hands, legs, feet, back, shoulders and even the face: it is the set the body that must be stimulated, not just the breasts, buttocks or sex.

Remember then the G-spot and clitoris, they are not more important than the arm or neck … Indeed, the goal of Tantra (in the sexual sense) is the union and fusion of the couple. Making love in an approach inspired tantric back to listen to his body and that of his partner, while slowing the moment of orgasm. Each partner must go with pleasure, without seeking to cause orgasm while we even tend to forget. The idea is to just enjoy this merger with its partner, this slow, gradual rise of desire and pleasure. The energy of one is transmitted to the other and vice versa in a merger of the total torque, slow and without complex.

Unlike a lambda sex where one seeks to raise the fun as soon as possible by stimulating the erogenous zones, the watchword of Tantrism is: take your time! Remember when orgasm caused by a “coming and going” or clitoral stimulation … tantric orgasm vibrates the entire body, from head to toe and it is the whole body which is transcended. An orgasm can be achieved without there being penetration or ejaculation.

Tantra: how to slow the arrival of orgasm?

Tantric sex is the length: it can last two to three hours for experienced couples. While some couples prefer to avoid penetration to be sure to keep it as long as possible, you can reach the tantric orgasm while practicing it.

But when there is penetration, slowing the arrival of an orgasm requires real technique and a great habit. For this, we must succeed in mastering the contractions associated with the rise of pleasure, including musclant her perineum and adopting a relaxing breath. Or by making breaks at times. Breathing is a key element of the tantric orgasm: it must be slow, deep and help calm the contractions caused by the rise of excitement.

Generally, it fails to tantric orgasm at the first attempt: it takes time and practice to learn to control his pleasure, his excitement. Getting to meditation can be a solution to learn to lead her breath and calm his excitement. Workshops and introductory courses in Tantra can also be an interesting alternative for couples who want to try the experience of Tantric orgasm.

Les Techniques Fondamentales du Massage Erotique… Partie 2

LES TECHNIQUES FONDAMENTAUX DE MASSAGE EROTIQUE

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PARTIE 2

Dans les vaisseaux lymphatiques la circulation des liquides est activé par l’intermédiaire du glissement lent et ferme des mains.

Pour éviter l’obstruction de la circulation sanguine dans les artères

– dans lequel les flux de sang dans le sens inverse

– les mouvements ne sont pas fluide et continue.

Pendant le ramollissement, il doit y avoir des variations rythmiques de l’intensité de la pression

– les mouvements de la machine à semer.

Comment faire: mouvements simultanés ou alternatifs

Le glissement des mains sur les surfaces massé peut être fait avec les deux mains à la fois (mouvements simultanés) ou avec une main (mouvements alternatifs).

Les mouvements simultanés sont appliqués sur la longueur du corps, de sorte qu’ils sont de longue ou très longue et ils sont les plus appropriés pour le dos, par les bras et les jambes.

Les méthodes alternatives sont effectuées dans trois directions, et sont divisés en:

– Longs mouvements alternatifs sont appliquées de la même manière que les longs mouvements simultanés, avec la seule différence que dans ce cas une seule main sera masser, ou l’autre, à tour de rôle.

– Mouvements alternatifs moyennes – ces mouvements ne sont pas longitudinale, ils sont obliques et sont appliqués sur les membres et sur le dos.

– Mouvements alternatifs courtes

– qui sont transversales.

Par conséquent, les mouvements alternatifs utilisent une main à la fois, et la longue glisse vont perdre de la vitesse et de la pression, devenir lent, tandis que les mouvements courts auront un rythme plus alerte et une pression accrue.

Les mouvements très courts et pressées ont une grande applicabilité dans le traitement des noeuds ainsi que dans les infiltrations de dissipation dans les tissus profonds.
LES EFFETS DE RAMOLLISSEMENT
L’effet le plus important de l’adoucissement se reflète sur la circulation du sang dans les vaisseaux capillaires et superficielles ainsi que sur la circulation lymphatique.

L’action sur la circulation se produit de deux manières:
a) La façon mécanique: à travers les manœuvres d’effleurage le massage agit directement sur les vaisseaux sanguins superficiels, influencer la poussée de la colonne de sang veineux dans le sens dans le flux normal (centripète).

On peut également agir sur la circulation profonde, lorsque le ramollissement est réalisé à la pression, en plus des mouvements que nous avons décrits jusqu’à présent.

Dans le cas des bras et des jambes, la circulation profonde est influencée par le ramollissement inégale, réalisée avec un mouvement circulaire, comme un bracelet ou une bague, autour du bras ou de la jambe du récepteur.

1. Le ramollissement initial établit le récepteur de collaboration – masseur. Le récepteur émerge dans un état de relaxation physique et psychique. Une partie importante à cet égard joue le masseur, qui a parfois recours à un ensemble de l’arsenal psychique y compris la suggestion et cherchant à induire dans le récepteur du massage l’auto-suggestion.

2. Par l’intermédiaire du niveau d’énergie d’augmentation, la circulation périphérique est accéléré, la sollicitation cardiaque est diminuée, et les contractions systolique se produisent plus rarement, la détermination de l’augmentation de la fonction d’éjection.

3. La connaissance du rôle du sébum dans la formation du film de type acide de surface, on peut indiquer que la fonction de la peau comme un agent anti-microbienne et anti-parasite est plus forte.

4. Le thermo-régulation se produit naturellement.

5. Après un intervalle cohérente et persévérante de séances de massage, dans lequel le ramollissement est approfondie et responsable fait, il ya des résultats notables tels que: le maintien du tonus musculaire, de la souplesse et l’élasticité de la peau, et même le renouvellement de l’épiderme. Par conséquent, l’effleurage est considéré comme un élixir véritable de la jeunesse et une arme efficace dans la lutte contre le vieillissement.

6. Grâce à la sueur de l’organisme élimine les substances minérales (Na +, Cl +, K +, Ca +, P-) découlant de la dégradation des substances protéiques (urée, acide urique, créatine et ammoniac) et des substances organiques (acide lactique, etc.) . Une grande partie de ces substances est le résultat de proses biochimiques qui se produisent pendant les contractions musculaires.

7. Le massage favorise la détoxication de l’organisme de ce ballast métabolique.

À cet égard, nous devrons avoir un massage après un effort physique intense, car d’une part elle permet d’éviter la fatigue et o autre part, il favorisera la récupération des propriétés fonctionnelles des tissus.

b) la façon réflexe: les longs mouvements, effectuées avec une faible intensité et le rythme lent ont une action calmante apaisante au niveau du système nerveux et une action de détente sur le niveau de la musculature.

Dans le même temps, ils se arrêtent ou ralentissent les fonctions des tissus ou des organes et diminuent ou inhibent la sensibilité, la conductibilité et la réactivité au niveau des nerfs.

Les mouvements brefs et adoucissantes vigoureuses, appliquées avec le rythme et l’intensité accrue ont éveiller effets.

Nous savons que la température de la peau est incriminée dans la perception de la douleur (basse température diminue elle).

Ce est pourquoi, dans le cas de lésions post-traumatiques, le massage consiste à ramollissements utilisant la glace, jusqu’à l’apparition de l’effet analgésique.

Les Techniques fondamentales du Massage Erotique… Partie 1

LES TECHNIQUES FONDAMENTALES DU MASSAGE EROTIQUE

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EFFLEURAGE

PARTIE 1

Les mouvements utilisés dans le massage manuel – connu sous le nom des techniques manuelles – sont très nombreux et variés. Certains masseurs modifier et combiner des anciennes méthodes ou essayer de créer de nouveaux mouvements pour impressionner par leur diversité et la complexité. Les techniques de massage ont des noms évocateurs selon le type de mouvement ou de son influence sur les tissus. Selon les effets de l’organisme, le techniques de massage ont été divisés en deux grands groupes: .

1 principal ou techniques fondamentales

2.secondaire, aider, ou des techniques d’achèvement

LA MAIN OU TECHNIQUES FONDAMENTAUX DE MASSAGE

Ils sont nommés principale ou fondamentale, car quelle que soit la caractéristique de la région qu’ils travaillent sur, ils sont indispensables de la session de massage. Utilisation des parties molles du corps est méthodique, l’un après l’autre, de la surface jusqu’au fond. La séquence des cinq techniques fondamentales est la suivante: .

1 le ramollissement (effleurage)

2. la friction

3. le pétrissage

4. le battement

5.les vibrations

LES TECHNIQUES SECONDAIRES DE MASSAGE

Ils sont appelés secondaire parce qu’ils complètent l’action des principales, techniques fondamentales. Les techniques secondaires sont généralement étroitement liés entre les fondamentaux.Certaines des techniques secondaires découlent de les fondamentaux, et viennent compléter les techniques de base. Les techniques secondaires les plus importants sont: .

1 criblage et du matériel .

2 pressions

3. tractions et tensions

4. secouant

5. pinçant

les techniques fondamentales le ramollissement (effleurage)

Cette technique vise normalement les téguments. Il se compose de rythmique, de glissement doux sur le corps, appliqué soit avec le dos des mains ou avec les palmiers, dans le sens de back-tourner le flux sanguin des vaisseaux sanguins vénaux et capillaires et dans le sens de l’écoulement de sang de la lymphe dans l’espace et de vaisseaux lymphatiques.

LA SUCCESSION ET LE RYTHME DES MOUVEMENTS

Le, d’adoucissement d’introduction initiale – est nommé comme cela parce que toute séance de massage commencera avec cette technique. Les variations, il permet d’une longue plage, se attardant glisse des mains à des mouvements courts et plus vigoureuses. Cependant, gardez à l’esprit que ce est un massage érotique. Le rythme et l’intensité du travail va croître progressivement, que les mouvements ont un caractère stimulant. Ils visent à «réchauffer» le récepteur pour les prochaines techniques. Le ramollissement finale devrait être effectuée dans la fin de la session de massage. Il a les caractéristiques suivantes:. Le rythme et l’intensité vont diminuer progressivement, de sorte que l’effet sera calmant et relaxant La succession des mouvements sera inversée de ceux de l’adoucissement de lancement – le masseur va commencer avec de courts mouvements vigoureux et se terminera avec persistante à long mouvements. Le massage doit être circulaire, dans le sens où il doit commencer et se terminer avec la même technique.Le rythme de la glisse devrait être un peu plus rapide que la circulation du sang dans les veines. Comme nous l’avons indiqué dans la définition du ramollissement, leur sens est déterminé par la circulation superficielle de sang ou le retour du sang dans les veines à travers les vaisseaux capillaires, et le flux de la lymphe dans les espaces et les vaisseaux lymphatiques. Ainsi, le glissement sur les bras et les jambes seront des extrémités vers le point commun avec le corps.Sur le tronc, le glissement suit le sens de la circulation vers le cœur. Sur la gorge et le cou sont les mouvements de la tête sur les épaules et les omoplates.

L’technique elle-même le ramollissement est réalisée avec:

Les doigts

utiliser les bouts des doigts. Cette technique se adresse principalement aux petites surfaces rondes.

Les paumes

ou le dos de la main – les doigts peuvent être soit propagation ou détenus ensemble. Il est appliqué au plan, surfaces droites, comme le dos. La pression des mouvements sera superficielle et il sera exercé strictement sur ​​les terminaisons nerveuses et vaisseaux de la peau. Lorsque vous désirez agir avec plus de force sur la circulation sanguine dans les tissus plus profonds, en particulier dans les muscles, vous avez besoin d’utiliser des méthodes plus solides, réalisées avec:

–les mains

– les côtés extérieurs des mains

– les poings

Par conséquent, dans les méthodes d’adoucissement , la pression appliquée est adaptée à la nature et la consistance des tissus et en particulier pour les besoins de la personne qui reçoit le massage.

Porn addiction is she also manifests society?

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PORN ADDICTION IS SHE ALSO MANIFESTS SOCIETY?

Yes, unfortunately! Pornography does not just broadcast images of bodies having sex. It also conveys a whole social discourse on women.
Porn likes to show indeed docile women subject to human desires, as devoid of free will. They are presented such as décébrées dolls, sex body to consume. Perpetually available, the daughter porn likes to be brutalized, that the tortures. This is the underlying discourse of pornography

The occasional user will distinguish between these representations and reality. But the dependent, fed by this imagery, will internalize this speech. His addiction does not stop at the screen of the PC or on the last page of the magazine X: it will also have social implications.

1. The permanent perception of women as sex objects

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This drift is standard, and unfortunately logic. The dependent projects on women pornographic fantasies embedded in his mind. Porn claims to him that any woman would be primarily a sexual object to covet.

Thus, the young woman cross the street, the office colleague, sometimes members of his own family, become material in the formulation of pornographic fantasies. The addict becomes unable to look at a pretty woman, without having to develop unconsciously in his mind a pornographic schematic. All forms of social relations may have, are tainted by pornography.

Beyond the alteration of sexuality, as discussed above, it almost forget that his interlocutors are human beings, not sex machines designed for the only male pleasure.

In addition, our modern world is extremely eroticized: the female body shows often stripped to, in advertisements, on TV … If an average person can remain indifferent, or are projecting a mere admiration visions will all electroshock for the dependent.

It is important to understand that this internalization is suffered. In over 99% of cases, the dependent is not a sadist nor a “bad guy.” He never asked to be assailed by such images. This situation is very resented by the addict, who feel like a monster, a sort of perverse features double uncontrollable personality.

2. The weaker dependent on itself

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Porn addiction tends to isolate the individual. Several reasons for this.

Pornography use is a time-consuming activity, like all those prone to addiction. The dependent connects to a site X “ten minutes”, believing themselves able to control himself. Then, from site to site, from page to page, the length of his surfing goes, sometimes for up to several hours. He realizes that eventually, it is not so much other things “that” its relaxation.

However, pornography consumption is an extremely solitary activity, very few capable of generating social interactivity. Indeed, one meets people surfing sites X or watching porn videos for hours. This also applies to dependent type II or III, seeking interaction with virtual models (type II) or real (type III). In both cases, the report is flawed because it is based solely on a commercial exchange: I pay for a body, so the body engages me. The exchange does not exist beyond this relationship to money.

Finally, some addicts will simply lose the taste for “something else.” Constantly asked by their impulses, they lose all desire for any activity that would not bring their sexual satisfecit. Going out with friends, romantic moments … all this loses a lot of appeal to them. Those live porn, day to day, even when they consume more.

3. Difficulty establish emotional contact or experience feelings love

OCCURRENCE OF THE PHENOMENON: SOMETIMES

Also observed occasionally in dependent who began to consume X teenager or child, difficulty in forming lasting emotional contact with females. Having trouble surpass fantasies invading at the sight of a pretty woman, they experience many difficulties in identifying feelings in them that could hide behind this outburst instinctual. In practice, this can generate two types of behaviors:
– Some addicts confuse feelings and sexual urges. They “love to sleep” or “sleep to love.” They feel they “miss something” because they do not feel “fully in love” with their partner, mainly appreciated for its sexual potential. They somehow feel not to love “as it should be.”
– Other addicts feel not being able to love someone because they do not reach beyond the simple instinctual feelings. The emergence of feelings requires an ability to be able to look to another otherwise than on his sexual potential. What the porn, which was often the only sex education pornoaddicts, has not taught them! So, these dependent will literally feel miss love, of being unable to love someone. Their existence is often marked by great loneliness, and marked by a sense of abnormality.

Our sexual identity begins to build in adolescence, from the images and representations of our community. The pornoaddicts teenagers had their early sexual imagery polluted by pornography, even before a different discourse is presented to them. They are prisoners of pornographic images, simply because no one else was offered to them when they were young. As adults, they find it extremely difficult to “make adjustments” and appreciate someone for who he is, not just for his “sexual potential”

This phenomenon, previously fairly marginal, now becoming more widespread with the trivialisation of porn from the public child and adolescent. Porn is one of the standards teen years 2000 and 2010. It now produces generations of pornodépendants, which it is urgent to give a mixed message so that they, as adults, their full potential.
If you yourself are parents of a teenager pornodépendant, I invite you to read the article “Addressing the issue of pornography with a teenager.” You will understand the importance of developing with your offspring, critical thinking on such matters.

TESTIMONY OF BRET DEPENDENT DURING WITHDRAWAL, 09 AOUT 2011

“I started watching porn and masturbating very early, at the age of 10, after finding porno magazines with me … I am now 28! (…) J ‘have long suffered from addiction, and I think she is the main responsible for the huge lack of confidence I have towards women and people I do not know (…) I have a girlfriend 6 months ago but I absolutely do not manage to feel feelings when she is in love and I think it makes her suffer. (…) I feel totally devoid of any feeling towards her but also to anyone else. Sometimes it seems like I feel more in watching a movie or listening to music that having an interaction with a human being and it really scares me (…) ”

TESTIMONY OF toto29, DEPENDENT DURING WITHDRAWAL, February A July 2011
[22 February 2011] “I have no feeling and I can not have them. I’m already in love but it was before I knew porn.”
[May 01 2011] “It’s going to be very long as I do not feel more feeling for a girl (…) I am depressed because of that”
[3 July 2011] “I think it feels more feelings because we are fully self ourselves, our sexual imagination is not the same as a non-dependent, it is not as rewarding and creative. I still remember the imagination that was 100 times better now my imagination is like porn movies ”
[25 July 2011] “I still had feelings for 12 years, but my only female contact was porn, and only in these sex videos were through, there were no love. I think I see the woman as an object of pleasure, that’s all. I noticed that when there are girls my age in the street I do not know, I’m stressed, mixed with anxiety, I guess it ‘is because of my addiction ”

Testimonials from the http://www.pornodependance.com Forum

4. The tendency to procrastinate

OCCURRENCE OF THE PHENOMENON: OFTEN

Procrastination is the fact for an individual to put off what could be done now, in favor of passive activities and / or devoid of responsibility. For example, prefer to watch TV instead of dealing with important paperwork, surf the Internet all night instead of doing homework, etc.

Psychoanalysis says procrastination by an unconscious will of the individual, away tasks deemed unpleasant, but also the resulting commitment or risk. The individual who procrastinates can not fulfill his desires, or to achieve the motivation to want to achieve (13) However, pornography naturally tends to lower the level of interest invidus for activities devoid of a sexual nature. This disinvestment phenomenon is observed in all forms of substance abuse (eg adolescents using cannabis, and the quality of school work is in free fall)

The pornodépendant will tend to wander from site to site, aimlessly, instead of fussing with more important tasks and more urgent. What is ironic is that the procrastinator do not particularly feel pleasure in this waste of time. Usually it ends up regretting the lost hours … and yet falls rapidly through the same.

One of the first sensations coming with weaning, is the feeling of “rebirth”. For weaned suddenly while gaining new importance. Weaned found interest in activities that previously seemed to him grunt. It comes gradually procrastination, and reinvests in projects that are dear to him.

5. Sexuality seen as an end in itself – the predatory attitude

OCCURRENCE OF THE PHENOMENON: LITTLE FREQUENT

Pornography says immediacy of sexuality. The bodies of the actors and actresses are always available. There is no seduction, no challenge, no affection report. Any social relationship – the visit of the plumber, the coming of the factor or tele store, the evening with friends – are the single purpose of that sex. Lean comedy scenes no longer need to be credible, since the purpose is unique and known avance.C’est the triumph of consumer Sexuality: I want this body, I am this body. Everything about sex is not a waste of time, obstructing “purchase”.

Some addicts who have not yet realized their addiction, and not considering the relationships with the opposite sex that from the angle of sexual satisfaction. They will give priority to their interlocutors get a favorable response to their requests. Otherwise, they will lose interest very quickly and go try their luck elsewhere (predation Attitude)

Search first physical satisfaction before an emotional satisfaction, is in is not shocking, as this choice stems from a free consent of the partners. (9) And that is where lies the heart of the problem! The predatory attitude is especially held by addicts attending “serious” dating sites. They sy face women, they are looking for a more engaging relationship. Hoping to get their way, so they will hide their original intentions. The “relationship”, the terms are skewed from the outset, is doomed to failure.

Furthermore, where the dependent predator wants to move on, he realizes that he has great difficulty to invest in a lasting relationship. Just because pornography has not taught him any other behavior patterns. All this time, sometimes years to seek “sex”, do not have him learn how to get involved in a relationship.

What is the classic pattern of addiction?

WHAT IS THE CLASSIC PATTERN OF ADDICTION?

The vicious circle or spiral addictive schematically follows the four phases of any addiction. However, according to the researchers, the phases are described in more or less close.

Phase 1: excitement

The (future) depending feels attracted to pornography, for reasons mentioned above. He begins to conceptualize fantasies (sexual descriptions, exciting scenarios of expected focus on sexual partners, etc.) that will seek to find in pornography. Or, if he has no prior fantastical universe, it moves into position to make his own, one that will impose pornography. In both cases, a link is created between the fantasy world of the addict, and the one presented by pornography.

Phase 2: the consumption

The addict goes to porn sites to satisfy his sexual fantasies. Over time, his research always lead further, more hard, more pictures, more violence.

Consumption is accompanied in most cases masturbation, resulting from sexual arousal caused by pornography. Some addicts come as such to masturbate several times a day compulsively, that is a lot more automation and necessity than jamboree.

Phase 3: disgust

Once the initial excitement down, the consumer often feels a form of disgust, vis-à-vis ashamed of himself. In fact, he wants to feel excited by the vision of abused women, degraded. He also wants to not feel strong enough to fight against his instincts. The addict then comprises its consumption is compulsive.

Phase 4: the addictive return

When the excitement it deserves, the addict feels the need to get excited again. It thus falls in phase 1, despite his disgust into phase 3.
In the long run, it also has problems controlling his consumption time: the “just 10 minutes” become twenty minutes, then three quarters of an hour, etc. Others will consume pornographic material on their workplace or school (5)

The awareness of the severity of the addiction comes in. Depending on circumstances, the pornodépendant internalize his problem, shame or impotence. Others, and they are right, try to talk or to seek information.

Phase 5 (optional phase): the passage to the act

In some cases, a fifth stage can be added, that of the “transition to the act.”

Addicts are often overwhelmed by their own sexual arousal.
In a number of cases, this will lead to acting out in the real world. These passages to the act are as much effusion desperate attempts of instinctual thirst.
The acting out can take different forms:
– Research adulterous relationships (fantasy of parallel relationship)
– Search multiple sexual partners (the idea of a quest for endless fantasies), to the detriment of any stable emotional construction.
– A passage to the crime: the number of rapists and pedophiles acknowledge having used pornographic material before moving on to the act (10) and have wanted to do “like in the movies.”
Also, it is important to remember that the use of liveshows services or cam X, is comparable to a passage to the act: the dependent establish a real connection with someone, who is going to strip for him, according to the orders he will personally give him. The two “partners” masturbate their separate ways; but they each recognize the presence of the other, and have their excitation or their interest in this presence.

Is pornography really a drug?

IS PORNOGRAPHY REALLY A DRUG?

Of course! In excessive doses, pornography provokes the addict addiction similar to that caused by other drugs.

The amateur pornography search foremost a strong feeling, a kind of adrenaline rush. Gold, adrenaline in the brain called dopamine. Dopamine is a molecule secreted by the hypothalamus, which causes the feeling of well-being. It is also useful to remember that as sexual images have, in essence, an extraordinary exciting potential. They are therefore particularly well suited to secrete a strong dose of dopamine.

We can come to be quickly depending on the chemical response, and look well to constantly renew his pleasure. The addict is more addicted to its own hormones that at the drug itself. It is the same for sexual arousal. Man stimulated regularly by explicit representations can indeed develop a dependency to its “shoots” testosterone. And look, consequently, to reproduce as much as possible the conditions in which he felt them.

But overuse is addictive to this adrenaline. The addict is then led to overexposure, in order to continue to regain the excitement of the early days. It will therefore “increase” doses, or “improve” the product, which, for pornography, resulting in the search for sexual representations ever more extreme and violent.

The consumer then enters a vicious circle because he feels the need to consume pornography, it consumes; because he consumes, he feels the need. And this, pornocrates have perfectly understood long! Frustration is for them the guarantee consumers acquired their business.

I’ll add that even making the particularly dangerous pornography, is that no one expects it generates dependency. We all know the harm caused by smoking or excessive alcohol consumption. But the prevention message about the dangers of pornography is itself almost nonexistent. There are no associations for the pornodépendants (the issue is present, but at the margin, the DASA meetings – Dependents Anonymous emotional and sexual), no information campaigns to the public. And for good reason; in our society, pornography has a playful dimension, coupled with a certain idea of freedom. Try this: say around you, from people that do not know you intimately, you are against pornography. You probably essuyerez some skepticism, will be cataloged reactionary, perhaps even suspect is it that your sex life is not satisfactory. While everyone will abound in your sense if you speak from the dead by comas ethyl, or risk désociabilisation caused by excessive cannabis use. Very difficult in these circumstances to issue a prevention message about the dangers of pornography.

One can certainly say that 100 addicts pornography, there are many 99 who have not seen it happen addiction. These have overharvest more by lack of information, as by deliberate exceed the red line. Those are the victims of permissiveness of our societies.
However, the same logic, “forewarned is forearmed!” Depending having become aware of the evil that caused him pornography is the master of his salvation, and therefore responsible for his eventual relapse. It does not feel guilty, but to know bouncing on his own mistakes to advance. Flogging is unhealthy, but criticism is never!