I Tryed Tantric Massage

TANTRIC METHOD,WHAT IS IT?

It is time to lift the confusion: tantric method, it consists of what? Michel: “It’s about learning to enter eroticism with the sole energy of the body, bypassing mental projections. Without making a film that turns the other into an object of enjoyment. Why look fictitious external images so that one is facing a real partner? “Carmen,” This is the experience of unity with oneself and with each other. You have to go up the genital energy throughout the body, so that orgasm radiates us completely and does not stay stuck in the pelvis. To achieve this alchemy between the bottom and the top, open each of our chakras, the energy centers located between the perineum and the fontanel. do you even lift

Maybe, but how is it done? Exercise: it gives the music a kind of pace that will crescendo, free of any melody. Legs apart and slightly bent, it sways the pelvis back and forth. “You have to feel the energy in the balls! “Claims Carmen. It undulates, it undulates. We breathe hard. “And now, it traces the energy! In the belly! “And above, in the chest, throat, in the head, faster … It’s hard, the muscles pull. A real gym class.

Girls choose a partner. Wave two is better. But if the gestures, breaths and groans of the assembly look like those of animals in heat, I do not feel even rising in me that famous energy. We repeat the exercise, this time lengthened. Same movements of the pelvis, a little less tiring, a little more sensual. Carmen same exhortations of “The scrotum! We do not forget the scrotum! “I end leached and I swear never to forget my p … scrotum

 

EXCHANGE OF ENERGY

The following exercise is softer. This time it is to communicate its energy to his partner. In the lotus position, face to face, palms against the palms, lulled by the hypnotic refrain of a Sufi mantra. “Do not let your eyes and open your heart, asks Michael. But do not try to seduce. “Message received? At the end of the year – fifteen minutes of intense gaze – my partner tells me that she felt in me a strong energy enclosed in a steel shell. For energy, I do not know, but for the shell, well, it is not wrong. The following sequence should just help me loosen some bolts. Because now we enter the heart of the matter: Tantric massage for all.

 

I MASSAGE YOU, YOU MASSAGE ME

Everyone gets undressed, the two most modest – which I am – do not keep a sarong. Even Jane, who had thought ahead a simple conference on Tantra, is in a thong. Fourth surprise: I discovered that – as long as we talk to him nicely – anyone can get naked and let knead by unknown hands. Two participants are involved in a third. I am entitled to the expertise of Carmen and a young yoga teacher. Carmen says that we must consider all parts of the body with the same neutrality. “Fondling a toe or a penis, it is similar, if we do not put fantasy. “Even the scrotum? “The whole body is sacred, it should be treated with respect. “OK. Let’s go.

Lying with his eyes closed, in a full of sighs bliss, everyone indulges like a baby the pleasure of being hit by four hands, without taboo. If an erection advertisement? “No problem, say Carmen, it is nature. “Michael reminds us still to focus on the sensations and hunt projections. There will be no erection. And, curiously, no frustration either. We would like it just does not stop. Fully relaxed, I finally understand what sensations to send me this experience.

To those we have all known a summer afternoon when, to escape the heat, we gently stretches naked in the shade of a room. We can bend, certainly, but without trying to precipitate action. A clenching a brief genital drive, we prefer a bit lazy, being invaded by a gentle relaxation of the body. Two, they love naps can last for hours. And these are the best. I leave the session with two certainties: the tantric path can allow us any time to recreate this summer paradise for body and mind, and ejaculation can wait. It may not even be a goal. Thirty years of priapic convictions come to collapse, and I do not even wrong.

 

TANTRA OR SEXUALITY LIVED AS A MEDITATION

Reduce the tantric sexuality would be an aberration. Indeed, it is on the fertile soil of Hinduism and Buddhism that Tantrism appeared in India in the seventh century, as a complex spiritual current. It offers the awareness of our fundamental unity of body and mind, in connection with the universe at all times and in all life.

This approach involves learning of our dual polarity, male and female, and acceptance of our whole reality, with its shadows and lights. This is the uniqueness of Tantra as not to be a philosophy of renunciation: “It is no longer necessary to flee the body to find peace,  because the body itself becomes a sacred temple: the place of bliss.

Sexuality is experienced as a meditation where, through breathing and body relaxation techniques, each partner may feel a sense of profound unity with himself and with each other. For completeness, orgasm can not therefore be strictly genital, and men are encouraged to achieve without ejaculation. It is no longer about  master it, but to be able to forget.

JESUS…Fuck your “Box”!

Fuck your “Box”

By FervidM

I think the most interesting people operate two sides of very different worlds.  They have the complexity to traverse between those interdependent realms with ease, pulling off either role seamlessly.  I often think about how heavily we judge people based on what we see through our own eyes, and the socially obstructed veil that ever looms before them.

I was thinking about this the other day when wondering about what people think when they read my blog.  I wonder if any homely woman stops by my page and subsequently renders me a slut.  I wondered if they read me speak of affairs openly, understanding instead of condemning, perhaps even congratulating people on harnessing their own happiness.  I have been the recipient of so many insults aimed directly at my sexuality; they seem to bounce off my thick skin without much thought.  Further yet, I wondered how many people judge me specifically on the basis that I am passionate about being in a 24/7, monogamous, marital, M/s relationship.  The thought of my taboo sex life complicating any other information or solid advice I bestow in my writing.  How many people even bother to read it as soon as they see “BDSM” in the category cloud to the right.  I’m sure you’re asking, “Why do you care?”  You’re right.  I don’t necessarily care for the approval, but I care from the standpoint of analysis and principle:  Why do some people follow the socialistic patterns they were taught?  Is there truly some people that have not a single part of them inclined to understand what lurks behind the unopened door?

“If all I did was stare at polka dots, my eyes would starve for stripes”

I know people see me and believe I desperately hang from the outstretched hand of my financially savvy husband.  You see me in my body hugging, cleverly revealing, yet professional sheath dresses and think I have a library full of beauty magazines.  You assume I obsess over dieting, refrain from eating carbs, spend my entire life on a treadmill, or get plastic surgery.  Perhaps you see me strutting through the grocery store in one of my many pair of 6 inch stiletto heels, and assume I carelessly sling them over the shoulders of men for enjoyment.  A tasteful amount of cleavage escapes the v-neck of my sweater and you assume these beautiful, full breasts are fake; again, you assume they are probably a purchase that my meal ticket husband or my affair partner bought me.  I place a high value on physical appearance; I choose to never leave the house without being “done up”, so I must be under-educated and compensating for my miserable intellect.  I carry myself with poise, so I must be a conceited bitch.  You see me with my kids and assume I’m their biological mother as you watch them hold my hand, tell me they love me, and scurry beside me in their splendor.  You assume I listen to Carrie Underwood, ask my husband to make sweet love to me, grace a pew every Sunday, and obsess over the next episode of some popular reality T.V.  Oh my…

I am financially independent and always have been.  I have maintained my professional career throughout several personal setbacks.  I fully embrace my sexuality, to all degrees possible.  I haven’t touched a beauty magazine since my early 20’s, and don’t define myself by any standard other than that of my approval and that of my Dom.  I have an intense passion for cooking; therefore, I possess an even greater passion for eating.  I don’t deny myself anything that brings me pleasure, nor make myself feel guilty for embracing the pleasures in life.  I sling my 6 in heels over the muscular, mountainous shoulders of my husband, my Dom.  My favorite necklace is a collar.  I am well educated.  I am high maintenance; preferring my husband to parade me about as his trophy wife than walk 10 steps ahead of me while I trudge along in my tattered sweat pants.  I am confident, powerful, and outspoken.  I would still wear my 6 inch stiletto heels while stomping the heads of zombies, should I ever need to do that sort of thing.  I choose to be my husband’s full time submissive, because I have never met a man who can handle me until him.  They were small in spirit.  They were insignificant in presence.  They were boring in entirety.  I wait on my husband hand and foot; I make his meals, plate his food, wash his body, fold his clothing and carry his cum inside me with equal pride.  I serve him and his every request, relentlessly.  We blast NIN, Rob Zombie, Deftones, Massive Attack, Portishead, Tool, Puscifer, A Perfect Circle (yes, they deserve to be listed separately as I have an obsession with Maynard).  I fucking hate Carrie Underwood and her male bashing, spiteful “bitch in a pair of cowboy boots”, country bumpkin, lyrically trite, bullshit example of “music”.  Oh, and those kids…They are my step-children.  I love them as if I’d birthed them.  I love them with a power so great, it instills a fear of jealousy so vile in their mother that feels it’s necessary to punish them for saying my name.  We raise them with confidence, strength; provide them with an example of what love, appreciation, adoration and respect looks like in a marriage.  We eat family dinners together at the table, insist they use their impeccable manners, and share all the pleasurable tales of simplicity of their day.  We look forward to family game night, weekly.  I don’t pray to God, but openly worship my God (my D/Husband).  I am agnostic; but, possess a deep regard for souls, energy, and the possibility at previous lives.  My breasts and every part of this glorious body, often dressed so beautifully in the knot work of my D, are 100% authentic.

Try to place me in a box now…

Monogamy or monotony?

By FervidM

People say, “The key to a happy marriage is God”.  I laugh.  They cannot possibly be serious?  I believe the key to a happy marriage is mutual need gratification.  I side with the school of “need” rather than the school of “religion”.  There is a common law under this school, a rule in which all students operate under; this rule is: “Thou shall meet the needs of thy partner and thou shall have thy needs met in addition, orst thou shall find it elsewhere.”

Sounds harsh?  The truth usually is.  Now, we can state that the key to a strong marriage lies in a common faith in God.  However, I believe that a common faith in God merely solidifies the union through the imposed rules by Biblical tradition.  For instance, do you not covet your neighbor’s wife (or husband) because you don’t THINK about it and don’t WANT to…or do you not covet your neighbor’s wife because you believe you will have to beg for your forgiveness and could possibly burn in a fiery pit of liquid hot magma for eternity?  Moreover, do you kick those thoughts right out of your head because it’s a sin to think of someone else sexually when in a matrimonial union or because you don’t want to have the thoughts and find them unpleasant?  I will side more with the former.  I feel that if you have to turn to God to make your marriage persist, then you are on shaky ground.  God can only help you so much; the rest is up to the two people in the union.  The rest is also challenged by biology.  If you subscribe to that whole, “God made us in his image” belief, well, he made us biologically charged with instinctual needs too.

It is my belief that biological and instinctual needs drive the species.  We may justify our deviation from these needs under the guise of religion, but the need still exists.  We may project that we are beyond it, but the needs lie suppressed.  Religion has a strangle hold on everything that is biologically programmed in our species…Why?  Because biology and instinct is something that we can’t control, something that we can’t ignore.  It’s the pink elephant in the room that we turn the other cheek to…Just because we are not looking at it, does not mean it ceases to exist.  With this being said, if you or your partners needs are not being met (no matter a marital or committed relationship), that person is nearly guaranteed to look outside for satisfaction of those needs.  It’s only natural.  This theory is increased by level of attractiveness also.  If you are with someone or you are an attractive person, you have more options…you are used to having more options; therefore, more attention must be paid in order to satisfy those needs.  Can these needs be suppressed?  Of course.  But does suppressing something make it not exist, or does it direct its attention elsewhere in the form of an outlet?  It may not necessarily be another person.  Perhaps it becomes something electronic, or something battery operated…But, the problem still remains and is clearly not being taken care of.

Maybe I’m just someone who likes to get to the root of a problem.  But why do I see so many people satisfied with the illusion rather than reality.  It seems as though some people are satisfied with “looking” like they have the perfect life rather than attempting to create that life.  Yes, we can never achieve perfection; but I feel it’s a goal that although never achieved, is still something that we should strive for.  The image of the perfect relationship does not a perfect relationship make…so why are some satisfied with that?  I’ve seen people succumb to deceit when they know exactly what is going on behind their backs – How does this help anything?  If you value the other person in your life and you value them on the basis of being a human being; Not just a husband, not a boyfriend, not just a wife, nor a girlfriend, not just a father, not just a mother…but a human being in which you value:  Just satisfy their needs!  Furthermore, if you are the less sexually charged in your relationship you must be the one to step up to the plate.  Relationships are meant to be coveted, and the bar is set at the most highly sexualized person…and if you are not coveting your relationship and you are with a quality individual, someone else will gladly reciprocate their appreciation.

So let’s settle with the truth:  If you have been cheated on, you have cheated, or you have thought about it, contemplated it, or fantasized about it…then you probably can agree with me.  God merely acts like a large block wall that we masons put up desperately so that we may not have to face the truth.  Is it the devil putting those thoughts into your head, or is it biology?  We must blame it on someone evil because we can’t control it…and we’re ashamed of our natural tendencies.  We blame the other person for their lack of self control, when the blame also lies within the one pointing the finger.  Embrace yourself, your sexuality, and it will embrace you back.  Was it just “not meant to be” and you diverted off of the path God intended, or could it have benefited your relationship to have kept yourself up and spent a little more time in the bedroom?  We can blame God for a lot of things, we can blame others for an even more extensive amount of circumstance – but we simply can’t blame ourselves for say…a lack of oral copulation?

It would be a safe argument to say that the human species, by nature is not a monogamous creature.  Woman want the most qualified man; that of physical strength, stamina, and protection.  Men want the most biologically gifted physically to enhance their genetic components for their offspring.  Evolution, society, religion and its mores just get in the way of what we are natural inclined to do.  With that being said, when we make the choice to be committed and make the choice to be monogamous we can certainly make that choice a little easier by not expecting the other person to be less than a basic human with basic needs.  If we meet those needs, we are certainly in for more of a healthy and fulfilling relationship.  It’s time we took a little more responsibility for our own actions instead of using God as an scapegoat for reality.  You cannot deny biology, you also cannot deny the concept of “nurture” and its role in your life…identifying and meeting the needs of all of these components may not be easy, but it is something we should embrace to the fullest.  If you don’t, you have no one to blame but yourself.

Joke

D/s in the Bible?

D/s in the Bible?

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.
Genesis 2:18

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and He is the savior of the body.
Ephesians 5:23

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Ephesians 6:25

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord; whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement
1 Peter 3:1 and 6

Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power (control) of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power (control) of his own body, but the wife.
1 Corinthians 7:3 – 4