PROFESSIONAL vs ADVANCE AMATEUR
Who are the consumers of pornography? What are their fantasies and their attitudes to sexuality?
While no serious study has allowed until now to answer these questions, the national surveys on sexual behavior, conducted over 90 years, and finally bring us information.
Amateur Is it a real surprise? Pornography does not occupy the same place in the sexual repertoires of men and women: nearly one in two men and one in five women report using “sometimes” pornographic material (films, video cassettes, shows, magazines books, objects). In addition, 7% of men (against less than 1% of women) reported being big consumers of pornography. So one may ask what role pornography plays in the sexual life of these men: is it a substitute for a limited or unsatisfactory interpersonal sexual activity, or a complement to a diversified sexual activity?
Who are these men?
Overall, porn fans are not very different from all men. Rather young (under 50 years), they live in town, belong to the middle class and believe that religion does not occupy an important place in their lives. Two-thirds of them live in couple.
A varied and frequent sex
Overall porn lovers have a greater sexual activity and more diverse than all men, recognizing frequently have significant “sexual needs”. For most of them, pornography comes as a complement to an already rich sexual activity, characterized by a high frequency of intercourse, more partners, more diversified practices, including oral sex and anal.
Porn fans, which are great blowjob lovers, less hesitant than other men to practice oral sex on their partner. They particularly appreciate the “69”. Finally, they are twice as likely bisexual (8% of them against 4% of all men).
This diverse range of sexual practices does not, on the contrary, the practice of solo masturbation. More than half of them said masturbate “often” against less than 15% of all men. However, porn lovers are not a homogeneous group. A large minority of them among men aged 26 to 39 years has not had sex in the last twelve months. For these men, pornography remains associated with frequent practice of masturbation and therefore just be a substitute for a relatively limited sex life.
Despite this high sexual activity, in which they carry out the majority of their fantasies, a high proportion of these men expressed low satisfaction with their current sex life. For these men, pornography, which is a kind of elaborate erotic culture, may have the function of maintaining present some excitement for availability for sexual activities of all kinds.
Sexuality, love and the couple
Porn fans consider more often than other men who can make love without loving his partner. But at the same time, they also feel more frequently than sex is more satisfying when we love. They are less attached to the requirement of fidelity to themselves that with regard their partner more frequently and consider that we can love someone without desire. These quantitative data on the feelings of the men give the impression that porn fans carry with them very conflicting feelings and behavior standards and that can vary depending on the situation.
While men over forty years are very reluctant to use condoms, porn lovers, especially the elderly, are more likely than their peers to not be reluctant to put condoms.
Do they have more than others aware of the risks they are taking with their multiple partners? Pornography consumption kind of sexual education, is she one of those men “experts” on sexuality? Do they have more than others aware of the risks they are taking with their multiple partners? Difficult to decide.
Pornography consumption ultimately remains a predominantly male activity. Women show little interest. They are likely to draw the necessary resources for their fantasies and their excitement in the literature “mushy” they are major consumers. The scenario is so very different: more explicit and suggested more focused on the feelings of acts … But the goal remains the same: creating and sustaining excitement.
WHAT IS PORNOGRAPHY?
“Pornography is the eroticism of others.” This brief definition gives far from subjective into play when trying to define pornography.
Webster’s defines it for his part as the “representation (writings, drawings, paintings, photos) obscene matter to be communicated to the public” and points out that the etymology of the word refers to pornography prostitution.
That included pornography in the myths of the twentieth century, “porn means products of the X industry photos, videos and cassettes of adult men and women who carry actually – and do not simulate – erotic acts. ”
Definitions according to the censorship and the law
Any attempt to porno1 definition of pornography is forced to go through the issue of censorship, which varies according to time and political regimes. In this perspective, is considered pornographic any representation of sexual acts prohibited by law. One remembers that struck prohibited some now considered the greatest literary classics.
This prohibition may go beyond sexual acts and include lovers acts and acts of violence. Things get complicated in that some of these representations are subject to an absolute ban. This is the case of representations that depict sexual acts or violent acts involving children. In France, consumption of these documents is a crime punishable by imprisonment.
Other representations that depict adult heterosexual or homosexual sexual contact with animals, sadomasochistic relationships or acts involving the use of droppings are only prohibited to minors. Dissemination to youth falls under Article L. 227-24 of the new Penal Code.
The issue of sex education
Some consider sex education as a form of pornography, while the illustrations of sex manuals are supposed not to provoke the excitement of those who watch them, and that, in countries where sex education for adolescents is developed, sexual relations are less precocious.
Eroticism and pornography
porno2 The description and the public disclosure of explicit sexual acts can be considered either as erotic, that is to say that stimulate sexual love or obscene, that is to say dirty, degrading and shameful, from the point of view of which it is placed. These qualifiers can be applied to all representations of sexual acts or specific to several categories of them. There is indeed a paradox to be regarded as “degrading” and “shameful” acts committed by the majority of the population in private. So communication, the passage of these acts from private to public and their staging, making them “pornographic.” The representation of illicit sex only makes them even more pornographic.
Pornography is the subject of many scientific and ideological debate, mainly about its effects on those who consume it. It opposes two main theories.
First, the theory of “catharsis”, that is to say, when pornography is used to feed the fantasies and stimulating autoerotic activity of its consumers. In this perspective, the influence of pornography is exerted on the individual and collective imagination, and is supposed to have no adverse impact on actual sexual activity.
What is pornography?
On the other hand, the theory of “learning”, that pornography has an influence on the sexual acts of people. This theory seeks to demonstrate that the dissemination of pornography affects sexual crimes, including rape. American feminists were the most ardent promoters of this theory by considering that pornography contributes to the spread of a degrading image of the woman and it stimulates sexual violence against women.
Pornography thus has a history that tracks the social and cultural attitudes toward sexuality. It allows to discern the state of mentalities and social norms that regulate sexual activity of populations. It constitutes a true barometer of sexual climate of a society.
Sexual performances have always existed in all societies at all times. Even today, they nourish the sexual imagination. What are the distinctions between eroticism and pornography? These differences are objective?While the distinction between eroticism and pornography seems obvious, these two concepts are they two sides of the same sexual fantasy?Erotic pornography
Eroticism is everything that humans have invented to transform the seasonal reproductive coitus animals an infinitely richer and more varied activity, as well as gastronomy replaced the very limited food monkeys in a variety of dishes to formulations extremely variety, or human speech and singing are incommensurable wealth with a few screams chimpanzees. The animal would instinct, man would live eroticism.
Eroticism Pornography is the staging or the account of sex. A text, a movie, an image,a representation would be erotic if they play on the symbolism of situations and are aimed primarily sexual arousal; they would pornographic when they seek sexual pleasure, by exposure in the first degree of sexuality. The absence of symbolisation, sexuality for sex, found in pornography, make it an object of repulsion for many, in whom modesty is inseparable from sexuality. But as modesty is quite variable, it can not be a criterion between pornographic that the hurt and erotic who comply.
Tales for adults
The stories of sexual activities, erotic or pornographic, have always existed in all societies at all times. Today, they have the same essential role to feed the imagination and allow escape from reality so limited. In reality, everyone must come to seduce:make contact, engage, persuade, reach an agreement at constant risk of being rejected, even a little humiliated. The relationship obtained, it will show her body,create desire, to offer, to enjoy; for a man to have an exciting sex, a good erection,hold long enough.
Pornographic story comes at like a fairy tale for adults, and provides an escape in an ideal world, very reassuring, allowing everyone to fantasise detached from reality: manis desired when it comes, women think to undress in front of him and undress him, they always rush to his penis erect without failure, they take an infinite time in them, enjoy them to lose consciousness, and this is seen and heard! A woman who, in reality, has questions about the reactions that arouse her breasts and belly, excitement it arouse in the other, the effectiveness of his touch, his ability to enjoy, this woman s ‘identify the character of the film is bandaged men as soon as it appears, does not prevent them to get their hands on gender, being penetrated, to vary the positions, playing with another woman to get her fun in many ways, to surrender shameless enjoyment.
We lack pornographers talent for us to invent even more rich and varied sexual stories and detach ourselves more animality.
History of debauchery
The libertine is not only this aimless and decadent aristocrat that has become accustomed to imagine. Libertinism is primarily a radical school of thought that has gone through all of Europe, from the Renaissance to the French Revolution.
History of debauchery Originally Enlightenment, thought free from dogma, licentiousness helped shape our society. Montaigne Sade through Cyrano de Bergerac or Dom Juan, discover the story of a freedom to think like the others.
Working out of dogma
Refer to those who are freed of social rules by a contemptuous nickname was first the preserve of their enemies. The “libertines” are first in Geneva society strictly implemented by Jean Calvin in the sixteenth century, those who are not found in Protestant house rules imposed in the Swiss city. The first free-thinkers, Calvin called “libertines” in reference to the Latin “Libertinus” freed slaves in ancient Rome. Renaissance then landed several thinkers and humanists who react against the weight that the Catholic religion imposed on Europe since the Middle Ages. As Montaigne, who invented the concept of skepticism from all dogma in his Essays or Giordano Bruno, a former Italian monk turned philosopher who ends at the stake in 1600 for having claimed that the universe is infinite.
Licentiousness is the school of thought of all those who want to conquer the freedom of a man who lives only according to the rules of nature.
This is the seventeenth century that the mind operates. With the reign of Henri IV and that of Louis XIII, the company evolves and morals are getting lighter. The libertine becomes an epicurean intellectual. As “the gentlemen of the Marsh”, a group of young scholars aristocrats who enjoy life and its pleasures. Atheists, debauched and luxurious creature, they are inspired by thoughts of the Italian Giulio Cesare Vanini to publish satirical or erotic texts anonymously. Among them, the famous Theophile de Viau, the most widely read poet in all the seventeenth century.
Enjoy the pleasures of life
These libertines then refer to a “libertinism” or libertinism scientist who influence other authors as Cyrano de Bergerac and Pierre Gassendi. But it is Pierre Bayle that serves true libertine thinker. In his book Thoughts on various Comet (1683), he developed the idea that a libertine can be atheist and live with his own morality. Unimaginable at the time.
For, throughout the seventeenth century, the libertine is known to be a man of loose morals. The character of Don Juan is popularised by Molière, and with it the idea that a libertine advantage of this current of thought to get rid of all morality. This image of the depraved aristocrat takes its consistency in the eighteenth century. At the same time as the Enlightenment philosophers see in freedom an ideal to strive in the pursuit of happiness, the libertine novel appears and becomes a particular literary genre. The death of Louis XIV in 1715, signs the appearance of a new licentiousness of manners.
The love of freedom
Libertine eighteenth-century works are overtly erotic, like the tales of Voltaire and Diderot. But it is also initiatory stories where a young aristocrat joined the company to learn what it hides more licentious. Vivant Denon’s novel, after Point, is quite representative of this style. But it is undoubtedly Dangerous Liaisons, Choderlos de Laclos, which refers.
Licentiousness then takes its full extent, and can even be found in paintings by Boucher, Watteau and Fragonard. The end of the eighteenth century is the prerogative of libertine authors like Count Mirabeau, Restif of the Breton or Sade, the Divine Marquis, the author probably the most extreme of the libertine thought. Philosophy in the Boudoir is his true libertine test, whether this book called man to be free of morality, God or any social norm, to listen only nature and instincts. Legitimizing, for example, the worst harm, such as murder.
With the French Revolution, the libertine loses its main purpose. Libertines are legitimate because they live in a society with strong shackles. Broken by 1789, French society is changing and there are more libertines figure of “free thinkers.” Since then, licentiousness refers only depravity and moral laxity, having no more intellectual connotation. There Aragon, in the twentieth century, to assert libertine. The surrealist poet is seen as such because it defines licentiousness as “the love of life, ideas and freedom.”
Many girls like to be insulted during love.
Most used: bitch, a little thought: little slot, are the 2 biggest classics, to vary formulate differently, put in sentences.
example “it amused you got to excite me with your little skirt all day long whore”
An example like this one does almost all the time excites full of girls !!! (I noticed that during sex the insults excite more guys than girls, few girls are against than men because it blocks a lot of guy ..)
A smaller percentage, but sometimes they are people who like people to be very raw, so it bothers me to write it .. well… here is a quick example:
but you are really a big slot (slap on the cheek)
you like my cock han! You really like that, han!, I hope you feel it good in your ass! (slap on the buttocks)
lot like my big, look how I treat slots like you! (slap on her buttock)
It maybe shocking out of context, but I’ve known girls who enjoyed only if we took them like that, often shy girls in life.
Those who love dirty insults also love that it is with submission, if she likes to be taken as a sexual object then be very dominant work well.
You’re talking about:
“fuck, now you shut your mouth down and you suck my dick” (you put out your dick in the same time, very exciting for you both ..)
“It’s good, keep it up, go crazy now that you are naked”
“Put it in your little mouth slot”
“Now continue and be naked”
(being very dominant, have a little bit dominant gestures)
Beaucoup de filles aiment qu’on les insultes pendant l’amour
Le plus utilisé : petite sal*pe, ou un peu plus cru : petite p*te, là t’as vraiment les 2 plus grands classiques, pour varier faut les formuler différemment, les mettre ds des phrases.
ex : “ça t’as amusé de m’exciter avec ta petite jupe toute la journée petite sal*pe !”
Un exemple comme celui ci passe presque toujours et surtout ça excite pas mal de filles !!! (j’ai remarqué que les insultes pendant l’amour excitait plus de mecs que de filles, peu de filles sont contre alors que ça bloque pas les mecs..)
Un pourcentage plus faible, mais parfois y’en a qui aime qu’on soit très cru, si bien que ça me gène de l’écrire sur un forum. Voici quelques exemples vite fait :
Mais t vraiment qu’une grosse sal*pe (claque sur la joue)
Ah! T’aime la b*te, put**n t’aime vraiment la bite… petite sal*pe, j’espère que tu la sens bien dans ton c*l (claque sur les fesses)
Tiens grosse catain, tiens regarde comment je les traitent les catins ds ton genre …
Ça peut choquer hors contexte, mais j’ai connu des filles qui ne jouissait que si on les prenait comme ça, souvent des filles assez réservées dans la vie d’ailleurs.
Celles qui aiment les insultes virulentes aimeront aussi que ça s’accompagne d’une soumission, si elles aiment être prises comme une femme object alors être très direct marche bien :
Vous pouvez parler comme cela :
“Ta gueule, maintenant tu ferme ta gueule et tu me suce la b*te” (vous la sortez en même temps… très excitant pour les deux..)
“C’est bien, continue comme ça, allez fou toi à poil maintenant”
“Remets la dans ta bouche petite sal*pe”
“Maintenant à quatre patte petite p*te”
(en étant très viril et en étant un peu violent sur les gestes)