Tantrism to the Orgasm Tantric

TANTRISM TO THE ORGASM TANTRIC
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Tantra…Tantric orgasm
If Tantra is basically a spiritual power straight from India, today is a method to many Western couples to reach the 7th heaven. Every day seminars, workshops and training we are also proposed to achieve the tantric orgasm … But what Tantra? How to practice? What’s behind the term tantric orgasm? Decryption.
Tantra, a new method to achieve the seventh heaven? Far from it … If the past few years we hear of Tantra as a sexual practice, it is actually a life philosophy born there over 1500 years in India. Basically, we call a set of tantric texts and rituals which aims, through the exploration of the senses, to reach a total alertness.

Like yoga, tantra uses breathing and meditation as main tools of awakening. All the senses are stimulated in Tantric philosophy, including the senses called “carnal.” Hence the assimilation of a tantric sexual practice … It also speaks of tantric orgasm, a state of ecstasy which, according to those who have already tested (and approved!), Would be two three times stronger than a “classic” orgasm …

Is Tantra does it for me?

Tantra is mainly for couples: love and trust are two essential keys to achieve the tantric orgasm. Another prerequisite for playing the “game tantric” not consider sexual intercourse only as a means to achieve orgasm.

In the Tantric philosophy is the way that leads to orgasm is more important than the orgasm itself. Thus, we do not make love to achieve coitus but for all the fun and relaxation that comes from the union and fusion of the couple and the chemistry that emerges. Better indeed speak of discovery (carnal) our sense of sex. Conversely the quick sex, intercourse inspired tantric tends to push the point of orgasm to enjoy the fusion of the couple.

But then, what may suit couples Tantra? To all those who wish to “get” discover new sensations and love their lover (s) in a different way. However, test the tantric approach can be only two: if one partner is reluctant, it will hinder the tantric orgasm that requires a total relaxation of both partners.

Tantric Orgasm: what a difference a lambda orgasm?

Unlike “traditional” orgasm, orgasm tantric journey throughout the body and can be triggered without ejaculation there is no penetration. This is more of an explosion of the senses of the whole body as a localized orgasm in the pelvis. This is the principle of Tantrism: we no longer speak of sex but of discovering meaning in both. Thus, during sexual intercourse inspired Tantra, fellatio, cunnilingus and penetration are no longer essential to reach the seventh heaven.

But then what do we do? Mass and caress the body of his partner as a whole and not put all on the erogenous zones … The hands, legs, feet, back, shoulders and even the face: it is the set the body that must be stimulated, not just the breasts, buttocks or sex.

Remember then the G-spot and clitoris, they are not more important than the arm or neck … Indeed, the goal of Tantra (in the sexual sense) is the union and fusion of the couple. Making love in an approach inspired tantric back to listen to his body and that of his partner, while slowing the moment of orgasm. Each partner must go with pleasure, without seeking to cause orgasm while we even tend to forget. The idea is to just enjoy this merger with its partner, this slow, gradual rise of desire and pleasure. The energy of one is transmitted to the other and vice versa in a merger of the total torque, slow and without complex.

Unlike a lambda sex where one seeks to raise the fun as soon as possible by stimulating the erogenous zones, the watchword of Tantrism is: take your time! Remember when orgasm caused by a “coming and going” or clitoral stimulation … tantric orgasm vibrates the entire body, from head to toe and it is the whole body which is transcended. An orgasm can be achieved without there being penetration or ejaculation.

Tantra: how to slow the arrival of orgasm?

Tantric sex is the length: it can last two to three hours for experienced couples. While some couples prefer to avoid penetration to be sure to keep it as long as possible, you can reach the tantric orgasm while practicing it.

But when there is penetration, slowing the arrival of an orgasm requires real technique and a great habit. For this, we must succeed in mastering the contractions associated with the rise of pleasure, including musclant her perineum and adopting a relaxing breath. Or by making breaks at times. Breathing is a key element of the tantric orgasm: it must be slow, deep and help calm the contractions caused by the rise of excitement.

Generally, it fails to tantric orgasm at the first attempt: it takes time and practice to learn to control his pleasure, his excitement. Getting to meditation can be a solution to learn to lead her breath and calm his excitement. Workshops and introductory courses in Tantra can also be an interesting alternative for couples who want to try the experience of Tantric orgasm.

All about erotic fantasies!

ALL ABOUT FANTASIES!

Just close your eyes and imagine yourself doing love with a star or with your neighbor (e) bearing. So what? Is it serious doctor? Should we speak of his fantasies to your partner? Take action?

1 – What is an erotic fantasy?

Fantasies It is a product of the imagination whose evocation arouses sexual emotion. It often comes down to the fantasy erotic scenes seen or imagined that one likes to board on his personal screen. But the fantasy can also be an idea, a feeling, a feeling. Fantasies are not just sex, they can exist in all areas that arouse the desires and pleasures of men.

2 – Where do the fantasies?

That’s because they are in direct contact with our psyche that sexual fantasies have such power of excitement. They include the fulfillment of unconscious desires more or less distorted by defensive psychic processes. The unconscious desire which is expressed as is often unrecognizable. To understand the significance of a fantasy psychoanalytic work of introspection is needed.

Some people think that erotic fantasies are created from scenes views or experienced in adolescence or later. This is probably partly true. In fact, if such an image or such experience becomes the content of a fantasy for someone, it’s because this representation expresses distorted way but still satisfying one of his unconscious desires.

3 – Everyone he has erotic fantasies?

It’s a bit like dreams. Everyone dreams, but dreams do not always come in the morning to the consciousness of the sleeper. The imagination of everyone working and therefore, every human being to fantasies. For some, the imagined scenes were not content depicting human genital sexuality, leaving them think they do not have sexual fantasies. Their desire is expressed through scenes where feelings and relationships are predominant.

4 – Should we tell her fantasies to your partner?

Ask the question already shows that this is not automatic … With his spouse, it is obvious to talk about his past, his family, but these fantasies … There is something else. Our fantasies are from intimate parts of our being, uncover is to expose representations that we do not always understand. While we may want to talk to be closer to each other. Wanting to hear his spouse know him better. But as the significance of the fantasies is not easily accessible, misunderstanding and discomfort may result. Except perhaps if you share the same fantasies. But nothing is certain! In this area no single answer; everyone feel limits and those of his partner.

5 – Should realize his sexual fantasies?

Again, there is no universal answer. Each according to his problem and what it is, will be a report of its own with that part of himself.

You have never thought of, and this seems impossible. In consideration of your modesty, your fantasies themselves, you do not see the point. Your sexuality satisfy you and if there are problems you think the solution lies elsewhere.
You are right. To fantasies have their place in your imagination only, and there is no reason to change this;
You will have thought, but you’re not sure (e) of the result. Does the excitement will be present? Is it fun for your partner? Do you hesitate? So before any talk in together. Your hesitation is probably due to the impressions you feel unable to name them. Trust your intuition. We can not play with his fantasies lightly;
You’ve already done and you are very happy (e). The question does not arise for you. But if you always ask here is that the realization of your fantasies did not bring that can be fun, but a pleasure mixed with uneasiness. Take the time to stop by.
6 – Are cultural fantasies?

The surveys indicate that our fantasies fantasies take images of our time and our civilization to form. But beyond this background now no study has focused on what motivates fantasies. Are game issues common to humanity?

7 – Should we worry about fantasize during sex on another partner than his?

There is never need to worry of a fantasy. But the misunderstanding is often a source of fear. The fantasy is the deformed realization of an unconscious desire. Because of this distortion is often impossible at first to grasp what it means to fantasy. In addition to the same fantasy the meaning may be different from one person to another. So if you dream of being in the arms of a (an) other at the time of lovemaking is no doubt that this is something for you, but not necessarily that your desire is to live your sexuality with that person !dropoff window The man or woman with whom you are in reality is still that or that you have chosen! If your fantasy disturbs you more than it excites you, meet a therapist to talk about.

8 – Some fantasies sharply away from what we believe to be our aspirations: rape fantasies, submission, violence … Why this discrepancy?

We do not know as well as we would like to believe. Freud, with the discovery of psychoanalysis has allowed us to glimpse a world we ignore: our unconscious, unknown place of psychic awareness. Through our fantasies, our repressed desires more or less distorted speak. They are rooted in the complexity of our childhood experiences and processes that led to the formation of our personality.

The monumental gap that can exist between our conscious desires and those behind our fantasies is not surprising, because if these desires were turned away is because they are incompatible with the way we design. If these fantasies appear is that the barrier erected so that they do not disturb the conscious life is not completely sealed but still sufficient for our unconscious desires are confined to the world of imagination.

9 – When fantasy becomes obsessive, they think about night and day, how to get rid? In the staging? Trying not to think about it?

In this case, the problem is not to be taken lightly. If it makes you suffer and disrupts your life, you have to take the means to explore this fantasy, understand its deeper meaning.

Realize it will sometimes take away from the strength, but the issue at stake will not be solved so far and is likely to invest in another disruptive event.

Then consult a psychothérateute-psychoanalyst. It should allow you to access what you unconsciously express through your fantasy and free yourself.

10 – Some more than others fantasies disturb: pedophile fantasies sadistic scenarios desires of physical mutilation, etc … Should we be afraid?

When his fantasies far removed from the standards, the individual sees a sign of abnormality. Am I normal? Do I not take action? He does not understand and is careful to mention it for fear of being rejected. In fact, these fantasies out standards do not differ in their constitution most innocuous fantasies. They express unconscious desires more or less distorted by defensive processes. There are probably not more likely to take action than other fantasies. But the situation is more dangerous. Consulting a professional is needed. With his help, the individual can access the deeper meaning of his fantasies. That is to say, connect to its history, its psychic conflicts.

Clubs libertines… A practical changing!

Clubs libertines: a practical changing!

With the libertines clubs, Swingers is changing … Time macho willing to exchange their wives against another, to spice up their sex life is over. This practice of couples in search of plural sexuality, rejuvenated. And women have taken the

Swinging! Yesterday, it was a term quite “macho”, referring to a practice reserved for couples where sir, eager to spice up her sex life, “traded” his wife against that of another. “Swingers, it’s a bit old school of debauchery, where men are dominant, is now  * Explanation. The women are released! If the man is still often initiated through the door of a club, it is not unusual to experience frees some female fantasies. It even happens that men to be masters of the game, somewhat overwhelmed by the overflowing desires of they wife.

Club libertine night a singular institution

Clubs libertines The notion of kinky swingers club or club, as they were not frequented, still a little fuzzy, suggesting either the merry mess, or the creepy. The swingers club is a night establishment, dedicated to a diverse sexuality. In this unique place is generally found a bar, a dance floor, an exhibition bar spaces to romp and private rooms. More and more institutions are equipped with private rooms for couples or illegitimate libertines who do not wish to be seen by others. Some facilities also include saunas or steam rooms.

If the club more urban version borrows the appearance of a night club in the country, the “libertines” meet in real complex with Jacuzzi, sauna, swimming pool,

Mostly men and couples

“Most of the time, these are couples who come into a . However, some institutions accept single men, according to a specific quota … and more expensive rates. Indeed, the entry price is higher for a single for one woman, for whom the clubs are very accessible. Rates can range from 60 to 80 € about for a couple, and climb to more than 100 € for a man solo, against only 20 € or less for a woman.

Strangely, if the population becomes more diverse, the number of libertines remains constant. For proof, according to the INSERM survey in 2006, which reflects the evolution of the sexuality of French, 3.6% of men and 1.7% of women visited at least once in a club. And only 1 in 3 women and 3 men out of 5 went there to act. Whereas in 1992, the figures were around 4% of men and 1% of women.

Another important phenomenon of swinging around: a closure of the constantly growing clubs. One consequence of the crisis and the emergence swingers sites on the Internet, with the organization of private parties. There are risks,” warns our expert. We do not always know who you’re dealing with. His advice: It is best to attend clubs and then organize parties if affinities.

Plural motivations libertines club

The reasons for attending a club are plural. This practice is experiencing a real change, the concept of swapping has become almost quaint. The clientele is younger. These newly famous clubs “libertine dance clubs” affect 25/35 years. Sexual liberation of women opens new fields of exploration.

These new libertines are not necessarily couple for a long time, and it’s not only the will to break a routine under the duvet motivates their choices. They may just want to make love in front of others. A woman can go there for the pleasure of dancing naked without necessarily having the desire to take action. It can also search for a bisexual partner for an experiment.

On the downside, however! Some “libertines” are more motivated by a desire for sexual consumption, a couple approach in search of complicity … They frequent the clubs in search of immediate gratification, to give sensations. This population has grown with porn, and out in the evening with Viagra … 30 years!. A more behavior inspired by the performance of X than in the real libertinism …

A special atmosphere

Paradoxically, the clubs are very secure. Where in night clubs, it has become common for a woman to be dredged heavily, it is quite different clubs libertines. Anything goes, in a climate of respect. You can mater, dancing, caress you, without wanting to explore all the positions of the Kamasutra, nor make you fondle. A simple gesture or a “no” is enough to dismiss the application. If you want to have sex only with your partner, same …

In case of non compliance with these codes, the lout or (e) may be excluded. “It’s very guarded, incidents are.

A libertine club is not a cruising, we go for fun, not for “consuming sex.” Best for a good night out is to be open to others. Do not always try to meet beautiful people … some are less attractive but so much more festive and . No event is like another. Some are more murky than others too … To avoid disappointment, the easiest way is to use the guides. Or someone knowledgeable. Nothing beats word of mouth …

The Objects of Fetish

The objects of fetish

The fetishistic imagery appears everywhere and stamped assemblies “fetish” are multiplying around the world. What are the most common fetishes? How do artists and advertising people have they taken upon themselves the symbols of a world once reserved for a circle of insiders?

Unable to establish a list of the different fetishes as they are numerous and sometimes shifted. Doctissimo presents the most frequent.

Objects, icons and fetish imagery

Objects, icons and fetish imagery may be a material (leather, latex, fishnet, vinyl), part of the body (legs, breasts), object (shoes, pantyhose, high heels) , underwear (panties, garter belt) or clothing (uniforms, corsets). There is also the fetish glasses, the color of the hair, especially that of physics (round or very thin women contrary, pregnant women), fetishism disability, smells (good or bad), and some can be particularly surprising for the uninitiated: fetish smoking, urine, socks, needles, etc.
It may well include some of the most common, the Retifism which is fetish footwear, altocalciphilie, fetish heels or doraphilie for latex materials, leather, rubber … One of the most exotic is the plushophilie, which is the fetish fluff.

Fetishism in the media

But fetishism quickly spread beyond the circle of the few followers.
Many photographers (Christophe Mourthé, Ludovic Goubet, Robert Chouraqui), designers (Katja Ehrhardt and latex dolls, Patrice Catanzaro and leather corsets) and cartoonists are illustrated by staging fetishistic imagery in their works and achievements .dropoff window
Advertisers do not have them missed the mark and have understood that without seduce fetish performances are what attract the public eye and challenge with images of increasingly daring.
The cinema has not hesitated to endorse fetish icons include Matrix and its heroes in combination of leather, Barb Wire embodied by Pamela Anderson in total vinyl look, Catwoman, etc.
Stars have also understood the impact that could have on their fetish imagery public and gratify us regularly held that under no circumstances would indicate in the evening in the strict dress code. And Tina Turner, Samantha Fox, Meg Ryan, Beyonce or Shakira all have in their wardrobe perfect fetish range and do not miss an opportunity to share with their fans.
As for literature, the authors are not far behind. Thus, there are many books about fetishism. Lovers of beautiful legs affectionneront and “Legs women pictures” with Roger Viollet Editions, feet enthusiasts will love “The fetishism of the foot,” the Parkstone Publishing (Temptation collection), and all will enjoy “The fetish art” of the now famous Dita Von Teese.

What is an erotic spanking?

Among the multitude of erotic games that engages humanity since it has the opportunity, spanking has a special place, a special aura that gives it the indulgence of the less adventurous and recognition erotic explorers. Its gently wicked character, hardly painful, punishing just a tad naughty, transgressive tad arouse a form of affection and tenderness.

Spanking is somehow the little pampers naughty games, the one that nobody ever wants to criticize frankly and perhaps one of the few who always adorn an obvious touch of humor.

What is an erotic spanking?
This is a game between two partners which is for one to molest the posterior of the other and in which each is émoustillement and pleasure. Sexual arousal is found at different levels:

Submission and punishment: they are at the heart of BDSM games as they play on both the relationship of domination and the sadomasochistic practice.
The scenario: seeking to justify the reprimand, the couple and develop stories that explain this spanking. The servant who has not served, the student who has not learned well …
Physical contact: buttocks is an erogenous zone of choice, the one receiving the punishment relishes these supported caresses while the partner inflicting the correction comes into direct contact with this tender sexual area. Moreover, in the classic position of spanking that consists mostly to lengthen the corrected on the correction, it is possible to let go of the hand that does not strike to other anatomical regions …
The ambiguity: In childhood, spanking has no character is synonymous with fun and unpleasant punishment. In adulthood, a hand comes in contact with the buttocks instead becomes a form of erotic pleasure. Adult spanking plays  the ambiguity.
Some accessories to punish posterior
Hand: classic accessory that has been proven, the hand is the best beginner’s tool because it allows better control of such intensity … Once flat, no more than to shoot more or less ardently on the back that has deserved.
Paddle: It can be wood, covered with leather, metal … The flat surface allows broad slaps on the buttocks. More painful than the hand, you have to use it with moderation, at least not more than what your partner can endure.
The Sensua whip whip LELOLe: For the breakdown rather than slap, whip exists in several versions depending on the power shots that we want to impose. The straps soft and very flexible leather will be solid rather than in wild caress punishment …
The whip: Similar to those used to move a horse, more rigid than the strips of the same whip if there is again different models, you have to curb his impulses and do not forget a tender human rump, tender and pink does not have the strength of a tourniquet race standard …
Some teachers ‘professional’ also recommend more traditional everyday objects such as hair brush, wooden spoon, fly swatter … That is to say anything that may hurt a little, but not too much!

What spanking zone?
Duff refers to a region of the body rather vague and it is important not to go too fiercely romp outside the playing area.

Anyway, there is no point spread, the erogenous zone is limited to what is called the seat area, that is to say, this soft and rounded part on which one sits … Below you reach the thighs and sciatic nerves to avoid mistreating and above, you may hit the tail bone and kidneys, which is painful, absolutely not erogenous and not recommended for health.

The rules of “Spanker”
The term “spanker” that signie “professor” in English is often found to refer to people who practice this discipline. Anglophones have moult websites and books on the subject and there are several communities of followers.

These experts, if you were to pass by, you would say that both partners spank spank and are in joy and good humor provided you follow certain rules.

As the practice of BDSM games including spanking is more or less a branch, it is necessary to make a contract between the two parties that defines the limits not to be exceeded and describes the desires of the one and the other depending on the context (spanking in public or private, with or without accessories …). And to leave the game and return to reality at any time, a “safe word” magic word that stops everything, must first be established.

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FR

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BDSM Lies

 

BDSM lies

EN

This list of lies is absolutely true!
especially when it talks about the mistresses who say -“they did it by choice” (though not always) that “their boyfriend don’t care” (I’ve not one that makes this easy), that “we never had sex with our customers” (I do it for some of my clients are handsome), “I always control  my session” (that’s for novices) etc … Brief, read it  because these lies are part of a reality Ugly but so true! Well…Not always 😉

FR

Cette liste de mensonges vient d’une réalité absolue!
surtout quand elle parle des maitresses qui disent qu’elles ont fait ce métier par choix (quoique pas toujours), que leur copain s’en fou (moi j’en ai pas ça facilite la chose) , qu’on a jamais de sexe avec nos clients (moi je le fais car certains de mes clients sont beaux), je contrôle toujours pendant ma séance (ça c’est pour les novices) etc… Bref c’est à lire car ces mensonges relèvent d’une réalité toute crue mais tellement vraie! Enfin…Pas tout à fait 😉