Ça c’est ce que j’appelle un bon soumis!
That’s what I call a good sub!
Ça c’est ce que j’appelle un bon soumis!
That’s what I call a good sub!
If you can’t control yourself—your vices, your emotions, your tendency to act out—you cannot control another person. You are too weak and self-indulgent to control another. All submissives, even the best, resist control at times. Dealing with that resistance in a way that encourages good behavior in the submissive and helps to train her to be a better submissive and a happier person means realizing from the start that your submissive’s actions, however you may dislike them, are not about You. They are, rather, about her problems with submitting. Learning not to respond narcissistically, with anger, personal affront, hurt, or defensiveness when she behaves in a resisting or manipulative way, is part of self-control. Instead of overreacting, a self-controlled Dominant will rationally and over time devise workable strategies based on his intimate knowledge of his submissive that discourage the behavior and attitudes he dislikes.
Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment.
To submit to another, one must know themselves and trust themselves, as well as trust the one that they submit to. They must feel safe and secure in their environment, whether it be real life or simply an online experience.
Submission, to many is about being controlled, about being dominated in all ways, to have their every decision made for them. To seek this out is to open ones self to being taken and possibly hurt until there is a click. To find the One that fits, you must find an initial connection, build a trust and relationship that is not built from the interactions of a Dominant and submissive. To find the One that is your missing piece can be a lifelong journey for some, and some will never find that, they will bounce from relationship to relationship, seeking the missing link.
This should be what you are looking for as your missing link should you truly want to be submissive..on that subject be aware that there are also different types of submissives…there are submissives, slaves…and pets…you should research to see which one most fits who you are and what you yearn to become…
When you do find the right Dom, you will know because to submit to Him will be natural, easy, and wonderful. When you know you will cherish the exchange and the learning each other, one day at a time, one conversation at a time. You should and will have a connection outside of the D/s realm that strengthens your bond as Master and slave. But it will not be perfect, nothing is ever perfect. You need to cement the trust to make things work….
And I wish you all the best of luck.
Honesty is crucial in any relationship. The relationship between a dominatrix and a submissive is a particular type of relationship and the rapport between the two parties is unique. However, the in order to build a healthy relationship between the dominatrix and submissive it must have honesty, clear and open communication, and respect…
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This mistress SM is not too beautiful but she act that way that what make her power.
To be sure of ourself is one of the most important thing to be a mistress. By the mine time, her donjon is superb! She got taste! Look at the background. It look like a big stylish apartment where I would be curious to visit. but look closely at the killing detail… The window…What they did put on it? I understood that it’s to remove the light in the room but, come one! Not this way! Whatever I prefer to concentrate on the beauty of the colours, the background and the mistress (of courses).
Cette maîtresse SM n’est pas trop belle mais la façon dont elle agi lui donne sa force.
Etre sûr de soi-même est l’un des plus important point pour être une maîtresse. Cependant, son donjon est superbe! Elle a du goût! Regardez le fond. Il ressemble à un grand appartement élégant où je serais curieuse de visiter. mais regarder de près le détail de meurtre … La fenêtre … Ce qu’ils ne mettent sur elle? Je compris qu’il est de supprimer la lumière dans la pièce, mais vient un! Pas de cette façon! Tout ce que je préfère me concentrer sur la beauté des couleurs, le fond et la maîtresse (de cours).
I like the style and the physic of the Brigitte. What a strong personality! She’s masculine and I like it. She’s a Dominatrix and I feel she’s pretty powerful. I wouldn’t be her slave! lol
Lovely Latex is a ligne of Latex clothes. Look at the website above if you are curious. Maybe you will like it.
J’aime le style et la plastique de Brigitte. Quelle forte personnalité! Elle est masculine et ça me plait assez bien. C’est une dominatrice et je la sens assez puissante. Je ne voudrais pas être son esclave! lol
Lovely latex est une ligne de vêtements en latex. Regardez le site Web ci-dessus si vous êtes curieux. Peut-être que vous aimerez.
I was reading the submissive’s creed today, and was thinking what really is a creed, and do we need one. So I looked up “creed” and basically it’s a code or system of belief. Every D/s relationship is different, but they still stem from the same belief system that a submissive willingly gives control to their Dominant. There are different variations of the submissive’s creed but I like this one the best. Mainly because it states the essence of submission in a general sense, and it reminds me of the core values that are part of being who I am as a submissive. I like to read it from time to time before I do my reflections, it just puts my head in that place where I’m reminded of the very basics of my submission to Him. I think we all need reminding from time to time of the basics of anything. Do we need a creed, when we should just know the basics of submission? I think it helps to have one to give focus especially those new to submission, or those showing an interest, and I like the idea of having a code or system of belief as a sub 🙂
The Submissive’s Creed
I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits, and experience. I realize that failing to do so will not only prevent my Master and I from having the best experience possible, but can also lead to physical and emotional harm
I will not try to manipulate my Master.
I will not push to make a scene go the way I feel it should.
I will keep an open mind about trying things that I am not accustomed to or comfortable with and expanding my limits. I will continue to grow as a submissive and as a human being.
I will accept the responsibility of discovering what pleases my Master, and will do my best to fulfill His wishes and desires.
I will not allow myself to be harmed or abused, I know that submissive does not equal doormat.
I will be courteous and helpful to my fellow submissive’s, I will share my knowledge and experiences with others in the hope that they will learn from where I have been I will take the time to help those new to the lifestyle start out on the correct path.
I will be responsive to my Master, I will not try to hide what my mind and body are feeling so that I may assist Him in His responsibilities as my Authority, I know that Dominants are not telepathists, and will not expect my Master to know thought or feelings which I do not share.
I will never think myself a submissive because I choose to submit on a different level than another. I will not be boastful of experiences I have had as a sub. I know that my actions reflect upon my Master, and will do my best to help others see him in a positive way, I will not intentionally embarrass or displease my Master.
Above all, I will wear my title of submissive with honor, I will never cause others to think that being submissive means to be weak or sub~human. I will take pride in who and what I am, and will never show myself in a negative way.
I love You Master xoxo ((me))
Again very useful! You can do it yourself like in the movie!
From Love and domination
“What we’re seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances within our own innermost being and reality so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.
Best known for his work in comparative mythology and comparative religion. His work is vast, covering many aspects of the human experience. His philosophy is often summarised by his famous phrase: Follow your bliss.”
Being centered is a Zen term that means a person is balanced, calm, healthy, peaceful, grounded, nourished. Some might see it as a relaxed state, one of calm, creative, full of the realization of being well-off, in communion with one’s self and one’s environment…How does a Master center a slave? He does it by creating, with his slave, a right relationship, that is, a pact of life in which each is free to be Him and Herself with a total openness, honesty, and clarity of purpose.
A Slave’s Mantra:
i dedicate my self to be always tuned to the infinite potential of becoming all that my Master wants of His slave. i want to become His wealth, His abundance, His freedom to be the True Master He has always been. i seek only His approval. i will seek only to bring Him happiness, to fulfill, His every desire, to anticipate His needs, physically, emotionally and mentally. To be His muse, His devil’s advocate, His sounding board, even His accomplice.
i seek to lose any precondition judgements that i have of what true servitude is and i will become molded only to my Master design. i will not lose that which had made me my Master choice to be His slave. But i will open all of myself to only Him and to His will and His desires. i will be my Master constant joy.
i will accept, no, i will welcome His pain as freely as i accept His pleasure. i will thank Him for both, with an open and loving slave heart. i am His treasured personal property to do with as He so commands. There are no limits except His, i will deny Him nothing that is in my power to offer Him.
His slave tears and blood will be the offering to my Master alter because I know His Dominance will demand at times pain from me. Pain that pleases Him. And tears and blood that feed that need. i will be His in every sense of the word slave. My slavery is not that of blind submission, i am not a pain slut but it is a part of Him and that is all that matters to me.
I will love Him beyond this mortal life, for i was created to belong to Him as His slave. And if it is possible, i will love Him beyond death. i am Him own.
It’s in the downtime that I know, without the shadow of a doubt, that what I’m doing is right, and strong, and beautiful. It’s not when I’m laying a hand on you, leaving you with marks, both mental and physical, as satisfying and arousing as those things are. It’s when I know that you’re so completely fulfilled, so absolutely happy and content, and safe, that you can be comfortable, being Owned, being Mine, that I am your absolute Master.