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DESCRYPTION OF ABNORMAL SEXUAL PRACTICES
To break the monotony of the couple, sadomasochism and swinging out of the shadows. To learn more about these practices once taboo, Associate Professor of Sociology at the University of Toulouse and specialist in social construction of sexuality.
While the visual codes of swinging and masochism invade the small screen and advertisements, they concern many people?
These practices more and more people. Additionally some extension fantasies, couples now have the opportunity “to go.” While a few years ago, Swingers was practiced by some tribes and remained a very closed environment, there is now the opportunity for all through the door of a club.
This does not even touch all social classes but tends to democratize. Thus, it is known that at the end of some union congress in Paris, some colleagues go to swingers clubs, as before they would “go to whores.”
Features are we today proportions of French followers Swinger?
The latest figures from the national survey on sexuality French dates from 1992: a time when the phenomenon was almost clandestine and was facing underreporting related methodology (interview by phone ) .drop-off window Judging by the surveys we conducted in our research unit there are 5 or 6 years, I estimated that 300 to 400 000 swingers in France. If we include couples who go to see when we can easily double these figures.
What are the motivations of these couples?
They are many: breaking the monotony of the couple, to please his partner, having fun together, do not do as mom and dad, go, etc. In fact, the same intentions are different according to one or both partners. For the first step, men often want to associate their (or) woman sexual fantasies and these tend to want to please them.
Do we hear that despite the sexual freedom image surrounding these practices, it is a macho environment?
Yes, it remains macho environment which breeds mainly some pictures porn. The codes of swinging are female: the woman should be available to look and desire. Miniskirt, sexy neckline … she should display the look of a woman be the first to male fantasies. Thus, it is not uncommon for this atmosphere causes dissatisfaction of some, who feel that the atmosphere is not for them.
SM, a practice “trendy”
SM practices are now very “fashion” is the new chic perversion. Women’s magazines are promoting it by telling their readers the shops where they can obtain the best price a little dress in black latex thigh in stiletto heels or a good old martinet families. “A good little spanking: this is perhaps what we need” recently headlined the Cosmopolitan magazine.
SM, contracted form of sadomasochism, says a priori the idea of a relationship between opposing characters or even contrary. Krafft-Ebing it is who first coined the term in the late 19th century, referring to the writings of two great writers, Sade and Sacher-Masoch.
sado_maso SM contains a spectacular dimension that requires an appropriate costume, a disguise which sets the precise status and role of each of the protagonists. Modern SM includes several types of practices: floggings with crops, whips or other swifts; inserting objects in vaginal orifices, anal or oral; links that are intended to coerce and to immobilize the subject; rituals of humiliation and domination in which the subject is required to take all kinds of positions.
Finally, in a more extreme form, it inflicts on the subject of temporary or permanent body modifications such as piercing, scarification or tattooing. The ritual takes place in a “dungeon”.
The reversal of roles eroticized
In its “soft” form, the SM is a fun reversal, controlled and temporary positions that each occupies in society. This is how men of power have often been big fans of SM liabilities, in which they can at will occupy the position of the dominated. Women fulfill the role of dominatrix as a corollary of their lower social position. This is because women have achieved positions of social power they can now also occupy the position of the subject in the rituals of the SM. In this perspective, the SM is a sort of safety valve where you can play the other.
A lot of noise … for few followers
But if there is much talk now of SM in the media and the fashion aired paraphernalia domineering, practitioners are few. There are two clubs in Paris that offer dungeons followers of these games as well as several dozen prostitutes who offer “therapy” SM for gold.
Eroticized pain or ability to control it?
We find in this type of relationship, the idea that violence and the resulting pain would be a source of intense pleasure for the person who administers much as for the one who receives. It is therefore an eroticized violence and pain. Sadomasochism also includes domination, mental anguish and humiliation. Freud is the one who most emphasized the connection between the opposite dimensions of sadomasochism and their presence within the same individual at the same time and in terms of the relationship between two people where one can embody one either of these lines.
Stoller has proposed another interpretation to the eroticism of pain. According to him, this is not the pain itself, but the ability to effectively control pain, which is the source of masochistic pleasure. People who feel this type of use would have experienced intense physical pain during their childhood and learned to control them: the pleasure comes from the possibility of control.
Perversion psychopathology of everyone
Originally, sadomasochism was considered reprehensible and pathological sexual perversion. Freud and psychoanalysts have expanded the meaning of the concept by considering that the couple “activity – passivity” is opposing and inseparable fundamental characteristics of sexual life in general.
Towards a dialectic of master and slave
Challenging prejudices underlying the clinical psychopathology, the philosopher Gilles Deleuze considered sadism and masochism, as have been described in the works of Sade and Sacher-Masoch, are not the “couple of opposites “psychoanalysts. According to Deleuze, sadism would refer to the omnipotence of the master who willfully ignores the presence of the object to which it requires all of its desire to almost impersonally. Sadism and would be a form of absolute power over the other up to its negation.
Masochism would report to a different logic, that of the contract. The subject would be looking for a dominant (or more often a dominatrix) he would need to train and educate through a contract with him. Masochism would be the expression of a contractual relationship between two free beings whose contract between them sets the limits of what is lawful to do and not do. In this contract, the masochist causes the dominator to bring along to comply with its terms and waived. The dialectic of master and slave, dear to Hegel, finds its full expression here and sadism masochism would not be as extreme and sexualized forms of social relations.
A fully granted and contractual relationship
SM fashionable now is part of a consensual relationship between two free beings. And that is the signature of the contract between the two partners which sets the course of the ritual and its limits, making it an acceptable practice in an era that places legal and negotiated dimension of social and interpersonal relationships at the top of its values
The whip initiation or perversion?
Known since antiquity for its aphrodisiac qualities, whip made his comeback! Purpose of powerful erotic fantasy, it is in turn associated with SM practices, or libertinism.
“Who has one day feared, dreaded, dreamed of being flogged (e) or flogged (e),” questions the psychiatrist Philippe Brenot. His passion for flogging was in 1992, in Nice, very accurately. It was at a flea market warned that his bibliophile eye is drawn to a little book “Treaty of the whip” (1753-1799) of François Amédée Doppet, medical, political and general man of Napoleon’s army. Throughout the pages, he discovers the secrets of this art, floggings practices in ancient times, to the brothels, between setting errors careful not commit and delicious secrets of love.
Ancient doted whip!
The whip Very early in the history of mankind, the ancient texts tell of the relationship between pain and pleasure. “We know how the priestesses of Miletus played the whip for driving pleasure. Herodotus tells erotic flagellation of Isis parties where all whip armed faithful beat until excited by violence and pain they should fall wiped in the arms of each other “.
The texts are formal, no orgiastic ritual feasts without the whip, be they Dyonisies Bacchannales Greece or Rome …
Flagellation, a practice against impotence?
The whip also found its place in treatments against impotence! One of the great old belief was that the fertilizing sperm coming from the spinal cord. According to the Hippocratic doctrine, it was warm the loins to reinvigorate the defaulting member.
One of the reasons why our grandfathers probably adopted flannel belt to warm the kidneys when others would resort to the art of whip. “Flogging was a particularly effective way, especially if it was done by a pretty brunette”, illustrating the practice popular in brothels, and administered by girls, a few superannuated libertine, ecstatic. And vigorous. If evidence of the effectiveness of the remedy!
Punishment source of deviance
Masochistic fetish practices, whip entered very early in the life of Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, leaving traces that we know today. In his written cult Woman with whip, he relates how at the age of 10, he will be punished by his aunt he surprises with a lover: “Holding me by the hair with his left hand and asking me knee on his shoulders, she began to whip me vigorously (…) But I must admit, while twisting me under the cruel blows of beautiful woman, I felt a kind of enjoyment. “Once the women with whips, pavement velvet boots, and other fetish avatars will be present throughout the work of Masoch.
This type of correction can lead to deviations, a form of perversion of instincts He can not escape from the scene, became his only source of enjoyment.”.
Introduction to love flogging
Amorous flagellation may however have other roots masochistic perversion, “including that of progressive initiation by a well-made erotic”. True erotic refinement, this practice is at the heart of erotic literature over 700 books devoted to it between 1890 and 1940. Note The Voluptuous Suffering of Vignons Max (1930), Lashes Lord Birchisgood, Magnetism whip John of Villiot (1902) …
In the golden age of censorship, flogging, like other erotic refinements, was a sign of liberation of morals. Beyond a single mass practice, it mingled bodily sensations voluptuous excitation source. “A pain, there was associated the fantasy of domination, still ongoing today”.
The whip between sm fantasies and practices
“The whip and masochistic pain can be an exciting fantasy for some who will never realize it …” For others, who want to live, they can be a pleasurable reality. “Few flogging remain, except in very specific areas of the SM, a minority, believe me!” There remains a strong symbol of erotic granted bid, which continues in the practice of spanking ongoing.
Its variant, boots whip version proposed by the corners dedicated to pleasure, can feed this fantasy. Curious aberrations of sex. Any specific stimulation of the body can be exciting, with one condition, however: that the game is voluntary by the partners involved.
How to define fetish?
We can talk about fetishism when sexual practices are associated with the look or whether tangible or details are attached to objects. Fetishisms are numerous and assume forms that differ in the world according to culture. In France, the fetishistic practices are derived from the SM practices found in specific areas which are now broadcast in a larger population.
What are the most common forms of fetishism?
All cultures have their own form of fetishism. In Brazil, for example, is the ankle that will host all the fantasies. Thus, according to history and culture, erotic investments will be different and will head to various body parts. To illustrate this, we may mention Playboy magazine who changes his photos in the country in which it is broadcast.
What are its origins (childhood trauma …)? Can we speak of perversion?
Without going into the field of psychology, I do not think we can talk about the trauma of fetishism. Men were always taught to build their sexuality in a more or less standardized manner, whether to love the buttocks or breasts.
There has always been a kind of prompt moral perversion league to qualify any practice does not lead to reproduction. More humanity emerges, the more it diversifies its practices while it tries to exercise control over it.
Today, sexual practices tend toward a massive diversification, as people turn they in greater numbers to fetishism. In some circles, people aestheticize eroticism, focus on details, and fetishism is thus associated with outfits, to appear. With the desecration of sexuality, it became a game of territory more ordinary. Fetish practices are more in vogue, resulting once again social control although there is clearly towards more tolerance.
The fetishistic imagery seems to have democratised (in advertisements, movies, etc.). How to explain such a trend?
Advertising and the creation typically do but follow social practices that develop. There have always been movies featuring fetish practices, the difference is that today they are more accessible to the general public.
The wave of porno chic visible in advertising often claims of fetishism and addresses of the various social environments while previously reserved for so-called upper social classes. The development of sex shops also contributed to this democratization. Today, everything very quickly, and thus noticed an extreme diversity of forms of eroticism whose fetish is part.
History of debauchery
The libertine is not only this aimless and decadent aristocrat that has become accustomed to imagine. Libertinism is primarily a radical school of thought that has gone through all of Europe, from the Renaissance to the French Revolution.
History of debauchery Originally Enlightenment, thought free from dogma, licentiousness helped shape our society. Montaigne Sade through Cyrano de Bergerac or Dom Juan, discover the story of a freedom to think like the others.
Working out of dogma
Refer to those who are freed of social rules by a contemptuous nickname was first the preserve of their enemies. The “libertines” are first in Geneva society strictly implemented by Jean Calvin in the sixteenth century, those who are not found in Protestant house rules imposed in the Swiss city. The first free-thinkers, Calvin called “libertines” in reference to the Latin “Libertinus” freed slaves in ancient Rome. Renaissance then landed several thinkers and humanists who react against the weight that the Catholic religion imposed on Europe since the Middle Ages. As Montaigne, who invented the concept of skepticism from all dogma in his Essays or Giordano Bruno, a former Italian monk turned philosopher who ends at the stake in 1600 for having claimed that the universe is infinite.
Licentiousness is the school of thought of all those who want to conquer the freedom of a man who lives only according to the rules of nature.
This is the seventeenth century that the mind operates. With the reign of Henri IV and that of Louis XIII, the company evolves and morals are getting lighter. The libertine becomes an epicurean intellectual. As “the gentlemen of the Marsh”, a group of young scholars aristocrats who enjoy life and its pleasures. Atheists, debauched and luxurious creature, they are inspired by thoughts of the Italian Giulio Cesare Vanini to publish satirical or erotic texts anonymously. Among them, the famous Theophile de Viau, the most widely read poet in all the seventeenth century.
Enjoy the pleasures of life
These libertines then refer to a “libertinism” or libertinism scientist who influence other authors as Cyrano de Bergerac and Pierre Gassendi. But it is Pierre Bayle that serves true libertine thinker. In his book Thoughts on various Comet (1683), he developed the idea that a libertine can be atheist and live with his own morality. Unimaginable at the time.
For, throughout the seventeenth century, the libertine is known to be a man of loose morals. The character of Don Juan is popularised by Molière, and with it the idea that a libertine advantage of this current of thought to get rid of all morality. This image of the depraved aristocrat takes its consistency in the eighteenth century. At the same time as the Enlightenment philosophers see in freedom an ideal to strive in the pursuit of happiness, the libertine novel appears and becomes a particular literary genre. The death of Louis XIV in 1715, signs the appearance of a new licentiousness of manners.
The love of freedom
Libertine eighteenth-century works are overtly erotic, like the tales of Voltaire and Diderot. But it is also initiatory stories where a young aristocrat joined the company to learn what it hides more licentious. Vivant Denon’s novel, after Point, is quite representative of this style. But it is undoubtedly Dangerous Liaisons, Choderlos de Laclos, which refers.
Licentiousness then takes its full extent, and can even be found in paintings by Boucher, Watteau and Fragonard. The end of the eighteenth century is the prerogative of libertine authors like Count Mirabeau, Restif of the Breton or Sade, the Divine Marquis, the author probably the most extreme of the libertine thought. Philosophy in the Boudoir is his true libertine test, whether this book called man to be free of morality, God or any social norm, to listen only nature and instincts. Legitimizing, for example, the worst harm, such as murder.
With the French Revolution, the libertine loses its main purpose. Libertines are legitimate because they live in a society with strong shackles. Broken by 1789, French society is changing and there are more libertines figure of “free thinkers.” Since then, licentiousness refers only depravity and moral laxity, having no more intellectual connotation. There Aragon, in the twentieth century, to assert libertine. The surrealist poet is seen as such because it defines licentiousness as “the love of life, ideas and freedom.”
The latex fetishism
Elastic Parisian nights, show fetish Rihanna or Lady Gaga, SM games and vinyl in the heart of the trilogy “50 Shades of Grey” … The latex is very trendy! Octavia Delvaux, author of erotic novels, decodes the trend.
Just say the word latex for that immediately arises the vision of Cat Woman, Batman version of Tim Burton. More recently, Britney Spears and Lady Gaga head took over. At the biker version one, there is the challenge of the other SM. “Latex is the material that I prefer” seem sing in chorus Stars. The phenomenon also in full swing at parties “fetish” cheeky and cheerful frequented by followers. In existence for 13 years in Paris under the leadership of Francis Dedobbeler, Elastic Nights are always full. Most recently, he won the popular novel of the X sector, with “50 shades of Grey” by EL James and our favorite, the “Sex in the Kitchen” Octavia Delvaux.
The latex gloves to full suits
Fetish latex skirts, pants, nursing gloves, stockings, corsets … latex folds in many uses. But it is especially the combinations that win the prize, and even more “full” or “catsuits,” which mold the body completely simply with openings for the eyes, nose or mouth.
There are also conventional in the art, such as nursing attire for women and for men in military uniform. Color-coded side, black is popular, followed closely by red.
England, Germany and Belgium, where the codes are less conventional, there are new costume changes, right out of the universe manga … According to our expert Octavia Delvaux: “The costumes change with the imagination of enthusiasts this matter. ”
Latex fetish trend
Latex is often associated with fetishism. “It is the exhibition concepts and sensations (touch, hearing, smell), which take precedence … The latex can beautify the body, develop, sublimate forms,” says Octavia Delvaux. As evidenced by the current music scene with Rihanna, Britney Spears or Lady Gaga, who mastered the erotic codes. “It’s fetish, because desire is directed toward the thing as much scope as the body / partner who wears” advanced our expert.
This is a dress that is referred to fetishism fetishism adhesion. An attraction that could go back to childhood when the baby is reassured by the contact of rubber: nipples, draw sheet, or layers …
Latex: SM trend
SM notes often associated with latex “When the lady dressed in latex, it is a way to enter a character Combination” second skin “give the domineering some aplomb and allow him to. display a tenfold sex appeal … to the satisfaction of fetish submitted “said Octavia.
Moreover, the latex fetishism setting the compression idea, mold, compresses or locks. There are also full suits with dolls masks (which completely erases the identity of the subject and relegated to the rank of “object”).
And the ultimate: the bed or bed vacuum cleaner. These latex sheets in which the person will lie, as in a sleeping bag. An air intake system will immobilize inside fully, with the only possibility of a breathing hole at the mouth, or a tube. Watch Out! This is a risky practice in the measurement, or the “second skin” sheets can cut off circulation, especially in the neck … A therefore be handled with extreme caution.
One note, fetishism and SM do not necessarily go together. The followers fetish evenings are not predominantly earned by the SM universe and the games dominant / submissive. In this case, it is the concept of exhibition motivates participants.
Erotic qualities of latex
The strong erotic stimulation caused by the first latex comes from the vision of molding, and sublimated … The curves thus revealed or compressed by the latex, are highly exciting. Touch and rubber characteristic odor also come into play … The singular friction noises when two bodies dressed in latex are particularly erogenous meet for fetishists sometimes push the game to make love in a bed with sheets latex.
As for the one who wears the garment, it is the feeling prevails. How to live the wearing latex varies from one individual to another: some will appreciate especially smell, very special softness, warmth it brings; others gargariseront the idea of being “imprisoned as” and so prefer the full suits … “Or the feeling of being mauled by his garment,” says Octavia Delvaux. Perspiring (the latex is waterproof, it does not let the skin breathe) can also add a strong note to this punitive exciting experience.
Moreover, the dimension of the “ceremony” can multiply sexual tension. “Latex is a material that requires maintenance. Otherwise, it can deteriorate very quickly,” assures our expert. It must be washed with clean water after each use, but that’s not all … The attractive appearance exerted latex comes from its shiny, which calls for special care. “Apply polish on location and talc on the back, is part of the ceremonial” decodes Octavia. Constraints that do not fail to meet the SM fetish. This is often subjected to domestic’s responsibility to carefully maintain the holding of their master or mistress.
Seems logical to start with a literary definition of the term –
a person who is gratified by pain,degradation, etc., that is self-imposed orimposed by others.
Pretty much sums it up for me. I am that person who is gratified by the pain inflicted by others. Yet while in my mind pain is my release i find myself surrounded by people who say the same sentences or ask the same questions..
What’s wrong with you?
You must hate yourself and your body?
You don’t deserve that why do you think you do?
we’re you abused?
To clarify there is absolutely nothing wrong with me and I certainly do not hate myself.. in fact anyone who knows me could be forgiven for saying i am rather egotistical. I fucking love myself. Only earlier on after discovering one of my passwords he called me out on being self obsessed. And i am, if you can’t be a little bit at 21 when can you be?
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